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writes:Hello. Basically my problem is that I'm seeing this guy, we're not properly together, but we're very close and we've told each other that we love one another.I'm in my last year of school, I finish all together for study leave in a weeks time, I'm not very liked there because well kids are kids - which I think is why me and this guy I'm seeing can't be together yet, he says that he defiantly wants to be together when we've left school - I understand this because he's staying on at that school and I'm moving to another.But, basically we've started doing things, well I have wanked him off and given him a bj - the first time we did this he went all funny and afterward told me that he wanted to wait until study leave until we did things like this. I said yes, and told him that I respected this decision. He came over to my place about a week later, where we were making out, he got hard, asked me to do it again - I asked him if he was sure because I wanted to make sure that it was what he really wanted, he said yes, so I did... But I've done this twice now.. and he'll kind of feel me up but won't actually do anything to me.. I kind of feel like he can't find me very attractive because he doesn't actually want to do anything with me.How do I get him to do things with me? And why do you think he doesn't do things with me in the first place? Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 If your so-called "love" is not also sharing life's enjoyments with you, such as taking you out for dinner, movies, concerts, museum visits - whatever, then I think that you are being used as a "cum-dump."
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): Could not agree more with "the walkin dude"'s post.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): I'm afraid I agree with the walkin dude. It does sound like to me this boy is using you. Test him, stop giving him oral sex and see how he reacts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): Sorry, but it sounds to me like this guy is using you for his own personal pleasure. I'm guessing he has no intention of being in a relationship with you and is basically saying it to string you along for his own personal gain.You are meeting up and giving him oral sex for nothing in return. I bet he can't believe his luck. If this guy was decent he wouldn't be asking for oral sex when you two aren't even in a relationship. He's using you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): Hi, I would stop servicing him without getting anything in return. Relationships should be reciprocal and equal, not one sided. Stop trying so hard to please him and then maybe he'll step up to the plate and start doing things for you instead of take..take..taking.
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