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writes:i've been seeing my boyfriend since the beginning of the week so we decided to out out just the two of us on sunday and we had a really fun time but then we ran out of stuff to do and were just sitting on a bench in the end we were so bored i said i had to get home because i had homework to do, and today his friend whos also my friend told me that my bf had been telling him all about our "date" and that he had said that i'm actually a bit boring i don't know what to do now what do you think i should think of it??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007): I have to say, Shandy is right. One thing you can learn right now, no matter the ages, no matter how casual, no matter how new, any dating relationship is -it takes two people to make it interesting. For him to have implied you were boring tells you a lot about him as a person. He's acting like he was 'entitled' to a fun time with you doing all the work. He's not right for you. As for movies, bowling and such, unfortunately that takes cash to do that. I know kids have access to allowances, etc but some don't and many dating couples in your age group have no choice, but to go for walks and sitting on the beach, like you both did. Talking is a good way to get to know each other. Too bad he left it up to you to make this date fun and interesting. That was wrong. So now, you need to always use your head, hun and discern who is good for you. Yes, this guy is immature, which is common in your age group, but he also was very unecessarily rude and disrespectful to you. I know many young people in this age group, who have been taught manners and would not gossip and act so foolishly...this kid hasn't. There was no excuse for that. So when a boy talks about you in this way...do you really need this grief? Leave him in the dust and go find someone a lot nicer who is much more deserving of your attentions. And never tolerate anyone tearing you down to other people. That is cruel and it says he needs to work on developing some good character. Good luck hun and move on to greener pastures.
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reader, funkilla  +, writes (21 March 2007):
I'm pretty sure that at age 13-15, she isn't dating casually as in seeing multiple guys. At this age, they tend to be like, "Oh hey, you're cute. Do you want to be my girlfriend/boyfriend?" And bam. Relationship before they've had their first date.
Try other things, like bowling, skating, going to the cinemas. A date doesn't have to be action packed on going, and plan to end the date after a set activity if you don't have any idea what to do next. If another idea comes up, go for it. But this way, you're not sitting around bored.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007): A week doesn't make him your bf. If he asks you out again then say NO, you don't want to BORE him! Let him know that you are not going to be talked about like that. It takes two to make a date and what was he talking about? What makes him think he wasn't boring? At your age there will be plenty of boys around and don't be in too much of a hurry to get in a long term relationship. Life is about having fun and not getting tied down, especially with a boring LAD!
Have fun and take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007): I am not sure how you are using the term "boy friend" here. This sounds more like an aquaintance that you hoped would become more than an aquaintance. You say that when you ran out of things to do, you both became bored. Well, that indicates you may not have a lot in common to talk about. This is nothing to feel bad about. But, he was wrong to call to you boring to someone else you both know. It indicates a shallowness on his part. And he was also inconsiderate. My advice would be, if he asks you out again, to just say, "Sorry, but I wouldn't want to bore you, again. I don't want to BE bored, either". (wink). I am sure he will figure it out. Hon, at your age, the world is full of potential boy friends. You have lots of time to meet one who really appreciates you for who you are.
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