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writes:I dated a guy for 2 months then he stopped responding to my messages one day. I didn't confront him about it or anything, I was actually about to be going on a trip so I didn't have time for the drama. 2 weeks later while I'm on my trip he tells me he just got my messages now and call him when I get back, he'd like to see me. I told him I didn't believe he just got my messages now and he just snaps at me and says "Lol, If I was going to break up with you, I'd just tell you. I wouldn't disappear on you, but I'm sorry if I offended you". Then he asks if he can call me and talk about it and I say sure, we arrange a time for him to call and he didn't call me and never spoke to me again. I didn't bother confronting him again because I didn't want him to know it bothered me. Did I do the right thing to not confront him? I feel like I didn't stick up for myself. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar +, writes (23 December 2015):
 I think you did the right thing. Why let him think he was more important than he is.
Whatever you do, don't call him back. Be the way you've been, that is dignified and formal. Keep him at arms length.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 December 2015):
 By confronting him you would have seemed like a drama queen. So, I do think for your own sake it's better to not give him any ammo or attention. I think by NOT bothering about telling him off you are sticking up for yourself a lot more than if you yelled at him. Because you are making him a non-issue... Someone NOT worthy of your time.
He didn't bother for two weeks and then made up some lame excuse about not getting your messages till 2 weeks later... well if you are JUST starting to date someone you don't wait for THEM to contact you, he could have gotten hold of you all he wanted in those two weeks but he didn't.
And really, telling him off would have done what? NOT a thing, he wouldn't suddenly realized that ignoring you for two week and then no calling as promised is not OK. Look at his actions compared to what he said? He SAID he wouldn't disappear - yet what DID he do? He DISAPPEARED!
You can't MAKE someone care enough to stay in touch.
Personally, I'd BLOCK and delete his number.
He was a dud! Next!
Chin up and Merry Christmas!
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