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writes: I had a partner but the relationship was not so good. I met a guy in the work place and we both had the feeling of falling in love at the first sight. We didn't have too much contact but probably 2 minutes talk each time we met. When I went away for businese, he sent me an email and we started to have more emails between for 2 weeks. After I came back, I mentioned in an email that I had a boyfriend and he said he had a girlfriend too. (At that time he was leaving the company for another job). We had more contacts after that and started to meet each other. Because of the bad relationship between me and my boyfriend, the guilt and the love with this guy, I broke up with my boyfriend. This guy said he could suddenly break up with his girlfriend but he will find a way. Things turned out his "wife" called me to ask whether I really love him. He wants to divorce now, but she still tries to restart the relationship. I feel so bad that I am involved in other people's marriage even though they don't have kids. The other side of me feel happy because he wants to be with me, but I am very worried how to trust him if we have chance to be together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): You feel so happy because he wants to be with you yet he has been deceitful by not telling you he is married. If that was me i would run like hell. He is dishonest! Get away before he does this to you. A leopard never changes its spots! Sorry to sound so brutal but that is how if feel. You can't carry on with someone who said he had a gf which turned out to be his wife. Don't bask in your own glory for capturing him, he isn't worth spitting on.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 hi there
i think you need to focus on making this work for both of you, you didnt know he was married so dont feel any guilty its not your fault probably this marriage was already on the rocks before you came to into the picture because it was too soon for him to take such a drastic decision. i know you want to be hopeful and excited but while busy doing that be cautious with this guy he was not honest with you about his marriage before you commit yourself to him find out if there other lies or secrets he is keeping from you to save yourself heartache.
good luck
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