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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I send a guy on my class a fb mail. He replied he isnt interested in me. I ignored him totally. One month later I saw this guy looks/stares at me at lectures, sometimes he stares deeply and long at me. Until now we had 15 lectures and he stared at me in 11 lectures(2 lectures I didnt see him).I ignored him all the times since I didnt understand why he's staring at me. Almost all times he sat diagonally in front of me so had to turn to look at me.Even when this guy held a presentation he looked at me 2 times into my eyes in front of all, this lecture he also looked from close directly into my eyes. Even stared at me when I passed him. He kept staring/looking at me. First time we talked was one month ago. When talking to me he seemed happy and as if want to smile. Then At lecture he all the time when he was talking to his friend was staring at me and seemed very happy. One week after we talked again.Then at the lecture saw him staring at me. At 23pm I chatted with him at fb for 44minutes. We joke a lot. At the test one week later, he big smiled at me and said hi and sat near me. During the test he sometimes looked at me in front of his friends. Once he big turned to me and looked at me. I was shy so l looked away but he followed my glaze.A week later(11 days ago) he ignored me totally as if I didnt excist. We only said hi with smile. The day after the same happened. But I also saw him at busstation and I talked to him. At the bus I sat beside him. He asked me questions about me. When I was quiet, he talked. We looked at each others eyes but the directly turned his face as if he couldnt look more,despite this he talked.He talked with soft voice. His normal voice is deep.Since he didnt come to lesson the day after, I send him a mail on fb ONLY telling him important thing teacher said. He didnt write to say thank u for telling me. He didnt write anything to me at fb or start a chat conversation despite we are online everyday.Last time I saw him 4 days ago. Saw him coming towards me with his friends. We said hi with a little smile then he directly started talk to his friends and stood near me talking to them.He walked pass me when I sat alone to enter the class. I also entered he looked at me. 3 times he stared at me deeply with a very little smile. I all times ignored him cause I didnt understand why hi is looking at me,he always saw me quick looking at him so he saw me seeing him staring at me. We have no lecture only 2 tests at next week and on 4th July. If he is interested why didnt he reply my mail even if the mail didnt contain a question? Why he doesnt start a fb chat conversation after the one I started? The only thing he did now in a one and a half month is staring. Please advice me what to do? is he interested? Shall mail him and ask him why he is looking at me at lectures? or what shall I do or talk to him?
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reader, Sandy 09 +, writes (17 May 2013):
But wouldnt it be strange if I ask him such a question because until now he didnt start a fb chat conversation with me or even thank me for the mail I send him telling him what the teacher said when he missed the lesson ?
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (17 May 2013):
Why don't you just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime?
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reader, Sandy 09 +, writes (17 May 2013):
HelloI actually told him at first message that I saw him looking at me and if he want we can start to get to know each other and he said:"Yes of course that we can start to get to know each other but I didnt look at you differently from other. Sorry if I gave positive/negative feelings" This answer I interpreted as he isnt interested.But when I compare how he stare now with how he looked at the beginning I would he only looked at me occasionally at the beginning. The looking at me at the beginning is nothing compared with now. Now he staring and many times that he kept doing in a one and a half month until now.AND I AM SURE HE LOOKING AT ME NOT THROUGH ME.How can I make friendship with him? The only way is to chat with him at fb. Isnt it strange if I again start a conversation? What to say to him?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (17 May 2013):
Are you showing some skin? If not, maybe he was staring THROUGH you, not AT you. I've been caught staring at girls when I was really looking behind them or just staring at nothing.
I'm sure that if he really was interested he wouldn't have said he wasn't.
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reader, R1  +, writes (17 May 2013):
 I don't think he is interested in you romantically. The staring is a bit rude! But maybe you could manage some kind if friendship out of this.
When someone says they aren't interested, they aren't interested! His loss.
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