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writes: i was going out with a lad we was together for 6months and i had a misscarage and 3 weeks after he said he was going to his mates and he never came back i have heard the he is with someoe else and i love him i have never loved anyone like i love him i want us to get back together but he is a really stubburn person so dont know how to tell him. he promised we would be together 4eva and thats whats hurting so bad and we had plans for the future please please help i dont know what to do. i know people say things happen for the right reasons but i dont believe in all that.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 There is nothing else to tell him, do not put yourself in a more embarrasing situation.
It is hard to accept when a relationship is over sometimes and one party may have strong feelings than the other.
Your ex may have meant "forever" when he said it but clearly he is with another now and he does not feel the same way.
Being in denial will not bring him back, you need to be strong and get out there socializing away. There is no easy way of getting over someone we love.
This person was not fair to you or honest, set yourself a high goal in life. You deserve better.
You cannot make someone fall back in love with you, however painful, you need to try to move on and allow yourself to be happy again.
Lots of hugs
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reader, I Waited For The One +, writes (8 January 2007):
 wow you want your boyfriend back y?
he's an asshole sorry 2 say that but he lefted u 3 week's after you had a miscarriage. my ex had a miscarrage last year and i will not lie 2 u 1 bit. girls take it like a train wreck.
my ex was depressed for 3 month's and when i thought everything was going great she dump's me for nofthing.
my ex was 19 year's old and i saw her take it so badly. so in a way i know your pain. i always said 2 my ex " i can not imagine the pain your going throw right now " but us guy's don't we don't know what's its like to have something missing.
but nice guy's like me and your boyfriend was not a nice guy. always stand by there ladys till the end.
i'm like u in a way i believe in all that " love u 4 every " stuff and i always told my ex even when i get someone new i'm still gonna love her.
u need to just sit down and think about your life the other's r right your 2 young 2 have a kid.
but i think your boyfriend wanted a kid and when he knew u miscarriaged he walked. and that's the kind of bloke you don't want a baby with how do u know if u get back with him. that he will walk of after the baby come's u will be 17-18 with no job no money and a kid?
you look after yourself and i hope u get throw this. if u can get help i didn't and my ex didn't we had each over but don't take your boyfriend back u can do better. i know u can.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): Hi sweetheart, I am so sorry you are hurting, you have been through a rough patch that is all.
Really, you need to take a step back and count your blessings, you are very young, you have the abilitiy to love and even to forgive and those are two very attractive qualities.
I don't think things happened for a reason, I don't think you deserved any of this, but you lost the baby because your body was not mature enough to carry the pregnancy or there was something wrong wtih the fetus, and really it is a blessing in disguise, a painful blessing but a blessing none the less.
Your boyfriend disappearing after was also a blessing, you found out before you made the mistake of getting married that he does not have the right character or maturity to be a good partner to you, don't try to win him back, you will be sorry you did as you will be asking for more of the same....life is hard sometimes and is teaching you some lessons, one date someone a long while before getting so serious, use birth control pills until you are ready and are starting your own family and learn to use them properly so they work....there is no need to have an unwanted pregnancy in this day and age, and getting pregnant is no way to bind a man to you even after marriage unless it is a mutually agreed upon decision.
Take care darling, and don't call this boy ever again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): You are so young and you have been through so much. Maybe he is hurting because of the miscarriage. Have you had proper advice from you doctor and maybe a counsellor in connection with the miscarriage? You need to see someone in the profession to help you because you may be suffering from some sort of depression. As for him going off and not saying anything, well i think that is disgusting, but it may be his way of coping. You are too young really to get into a life time relationship. You need to get out there now and have fun and enjoy life, you aren't even 18, have some fun. Your time to meet the right person and settle down will come in time, but for now enjoy life!
Take care
xx
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