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writes:sit back and relax this is going to be a long story. there is this guy who i have liked since the first time i met him. the first time i met him was at a friend's birthday party and he was very sweet. He was the first guy ever to say this to me. "you are very beautiful on the outside and you seem very nice on the inside so you are beautiful on the inside to." I thought he liked me but then a few secs later him and one of my other friends start to go out. I felt very hurt and didn't kno what to do. for a week i felt so bad because i still liked him even though him and my friend were going out. Well about a week later my friend calls me up saying that him and her broke up and he wanted to talk to me so she gives me his number and i call him. The first time i talked to him on the phone we had lots of stuff in common and he kept calling me beautiful and hinted he wanted to kiss me. After a week of that he invited me over his house and he gave me my first kiss and he was very sweet but he told me to wait a week seeing if he wanted to go out with me or not because he was going through a lot of stuff and didn't want to get into a relationship right away. So about a month later still no answer. My friend has a party and invites us both. Acted like nothing went on between us and flirted with my friend. So i get really upset and confront him about it and he told me he was attracted to her more and i kno i am not the prettiest girl in the world but he could of told me. And my friend even confronted him and he said he liked me at the time. Well now my friend is not talking to him because she thinks he is an asshole for what he did. and i am such a pussy when it comes to guys i can't say what i am feeling but i just dont know he has me confused because he said all that sweet stuff but he also said some stuff to make me think that i didn't even cross his mind. So right now we are friends and he is moving an hour away from where i live but i feel like i still like him and he calls me most of the day now to he calls me like twice a day and he comes to me with his problems. But i just don't kno. idk if he likes me or not. I hope i didn't bore whoever is reading this to bad i just need advice on if he still likes me and is not admitting it or he just likes me as a friend. Sorry typed a lot.
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reader, Sophie-Lou-X  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 This guy seems rather indecisive.
The likelihood is that he is using you as a rebound somewhat, as he came back to you when he broke up with your friend. The fact that he knows you like him gives him comfort, but at the same time, he doesn't want a relationship with you.
I see no reason why you can't be friends, and why you can't help each other out when you have problems, because that's what you'd do with any friend. But don't let him take you for a fool. Explain that you just want to be friends for the time being. If he can't appreciate you for who you are, and love you for that, then he's not worth it, because your relationship will not get anywhere. =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): Men don't tend to think for womans feelings. They just expect them to be there and too be used.
Well, the stereotypical one anyway, I'm not dissing myself or other men out there.
We are a insensitive gender though.
You need to accept that he doesn't love you and just wants to flicker between girls. A week relationship?! I mean c'mon hes not being very mature about it is he.
What you do is up to you but I suggest that you don't talk to him again and you find someone who will love you and think your attractive and not using that to use you. By the way that wasn't meant to be an insult on my part, you probably are but I can't see through my computer screen.
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reader, hanz1993 +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Ok hun well, it sounds to me as if this guy is very confused about who he likes and what he wants.
I think he does still like you because other wise he wouldn't of kissed you or said all of those nice things that made you feel special.
I just think you need to talk with him and explain all the stuff you've said on your question to him and then he'll hopefully answer this question for you.
Good luck and keep me posted?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): Hey i had the same problem with a boy like that.i didn't know to let him go or to try to fight for him ,its always hard to keep them if they might like someone else.I am not a doctor ,i am just telling you my opinion ,If he likes you he will come too.now take your own advice and relax because it might be a long road
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): im sorry to say this but,he's a user,he knows you like him and he is playing on your feelings,one day he likes you,the next he doesnt, weather or not your the prettiest girl in the world, you still dont deserve this .its nothing for a guy to say nice things to a girl/and vice-versa.he just wants a shoulder to cry on, and your being used for this , dont let him, tell him he needs to find some one to tell his problems to.if your as hung up on this guy as i think you are, give him the ultimatum, either he likes you as more than a friend , or not, and that you want to know there and then, if he says he just wants to be friends, show him to door, an dont look back,if he does want more, take things slowly, dont fall too deep too quick and keep an eye on whats going on between you both, he honestly doesnt sound like he can be trusted.im sorry if thats not the answer you were looking for, but ones about love generally are the ones you want :( but your still young, you have all the time in the world to find a better guy that cant wait to shower you with love, not problems lol xxxxxxx
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