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writes:I have dated this man for almost a year on and off. He is a Good, Hard-working man. He is a Ex-Marine. I have never dated someone that was so closed off not being able to express his feelings. Recently he told me in a message that he loved me and had wanted to marry me but because I have broke up with him so many times (fear of being hurt, not being able to deal with the emotional hardness and what people say about ex-marines). He said that he is walking away of having a relationship with me. I do love this man but because of the way my ex-husband cheated on me and hurt me I have never let anyone get close to me. What can I do to win back his trust because I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him?
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (9 January 2011):
I can relate to this very much. I too have left my partner many times, he told me if I ever leave again for me never ever to come back. My advice to you is to gain strength. I sent him a contract giving him my word that I will never up and leave him again. Telling him he has my word means a lot to me and I do not want to go back on my word. Now, we actually work through issues, we talk things out and I think before I act. I have not gone back on my word one time, granted, it has only been three months, but I would have left 3 times by now. I take our relationship much more seriously. You need to talk to him about what is bothering you, he wants loyalty and it sounds like you do to. Figure out what you both need to do to give each other loyalty, give him your word you will stay by his side and do it. Feel free to send me a private message if you need anymore advice.
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