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He said he could feel the same way about me, but now he is with my new best friend!

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Question - (23 February 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 23 February 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *odie-alice-x writes:

Hello, I'm Jodie and I'm fifteen.

I moved schools at the start of January and I've started to chalk into my friendship groups.

But there is a boy there that I would say I am now very fond of, and maybe even love if I thought about it enough.

I told him three nights ago that I fancied him, and he replied "I don't know how I feel right now, but I think I could feel the same way about you"

So, I took it as a could, and didn't really say anything more about it for his sake.

But then yesterday night - He got with one of my new best friend's and I'm really hurt.

I don't know what to do or how I will react if they kiss in front of me.

And I don't know what he meant by he could love me in return but he could - So if he could why is he with my friend? :/

Thank you for everyone who writes back to this.

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A female reader, Tigerlily United States +, writes (23 February 2010):

Ouch! That hurts. Well clearly at his age he just doesn't know how to handle things. I'm sure he didn't intent to hurt you, but it wasn't nice of him to lead you on like that.

However I think the best thing to do, even though it's hard, is to try to look at the bigger picture. At your age, you are all just beginning to explore romantic relationships. Chances are, 2 years from now this guy will be long gone and forgotten... but your girlfriend may still be at your side.

I went thru this sort of thing with my best friend in high school a lot. We both liked the same type of guys. Sometimes the ones I really liked liked her better, sometimes the ones she really liked liked me better. But 10 years later they were all long gone and WE were still together. Just hang in there.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (23 February 2010):

I think he was letting you down gently. And if you're only fond of him, then he's not the guy for you anyway. It will be hard for you, but as long as you continue with other friendships and just throw yourself into your own life I'm sure you'll be fine.

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A female reader, veronika Australia +, writes (23 February 2010):

veronika agony auntTo be honest - I think he was just saying that to protect your feelings (which is silly, because it didn't work). That doesn't mean what he did was right. He should have been honest about his feelings.

If I were you, I'd tell him that how he behaved really hurt you. Because even if he doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about him, it's just plain old bad manners and bad behaviour to screw around with someone's feelings.

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