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writes:So here is my problem:So me and my exfriend done business together. So he cheated me a stole money I invested. This business was based on trust so there is nothing I can legally do about it. This crushed me because I lost 2000$. I was going to beat the crap out of him ,but if I did he would sue me. There is nothing I can do with it but learn from my mistakes. The thing that bothers me is that some people I know and some friends are still talking to him. This I can handle because my true friends stopped and cut off all contact with him. But I recently discovered that my girl best friend is also talking to him hanging out with him!! and actually being nice to him even tho she knows what he did and how I feel about it. This really bothers me because it's like stab in the back. She sometimes even remind him in conversations. That is really making me mad. I really don't know why is she doing that. He was really mean to her in the past so I really don't get it. He is really unattractive so there can't be any sexual attraction I m really sure of that. I feel really disgusted about her and really thinking about to not being friends with her. I made it really clear to her how I feel about my friends talkin to him and she's still doing it. What should I do? please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell there is no chance of him returning the money since he doesn't have any. And I don't want my friend to solve this problem for me. I just feel weird if someone likes to hang out with thiefs that actually stole from their best friend. I feel that I can't trust her anymore because I really can depend on my true friends and they can on me. She was in simmilar problem and I acctually stopped talking to some people because of that. So I think she doesn't belong in this group of friends anymore
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (10 February 2011):
 While that is not a nice thing to do, you have to recognize that she has a right to make her own judgement of the issue. You may want to talk to her about how this makes you feel and see if anything changes.
Besides - is there a vague chance that she may be hoping to convince him to return your money or something - after all, if she "brings it up", it must be for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): There is really nothing you can do about betrayals of this sort. I would ask her why she is doing this and then distance yourself from her if she will not stop.
Don't ever do business based on word agreements. You need a written contract.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): First, no business deal in this day and age is based on trust... they're based on agreements. Maybe you were naive and trusted him on a verbal agreement, which now would be difficult to enforce. At $2,000 you can always go to small claims court and represent yourself (that's the whole point of small claims court!). Tell your story, if he shows up, he tells his, if he doesn't you get a judgment and try to collect. If you assaulted him, he wouldn't have to sue, as you'd have committed and crime and the police would more than likely arrest you and you'd look like an idiot - so let's avoid that.Some of your freinds have recognized that this guy is a loser and cut all ties, some of them haven't. That's their choice and you can't force them all to drop him... you just don't have that kind of control. The fact that one of your closest freinds chooses to be around him is odd, in that if she's your best GF, you should be able to ask her WHY she's doing this... odds are she'll say because she likes him and your and he's failed business deal is not reason enough for her to shun him.I'd strongly suggest going after your money in small claims court. It will be a great venue for you to tell your tale, and see if you can do so with enough clarity for the judge to rule in your favor.
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