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writes: Can you picture this scene...My boyfriend and I have had a stressful week with work and stuff. Today, I suggest making love in the shower and he is up for this idea. He needs me to wash him anyway because he's got an injury.Anyway, he gets in the shower...I get in also,wash him and he complains I'm not washing him hard enough. Anyway, I finish washing him to his satisfaction and when I go to get wet, find the shower to be too cold for me. I get out, get a towel to get warm. He gets out, dries himself off. I get back in, suggest he joins me and he complains that he's dried himself off so he won't get in. Okay, I have a quick shower, get out and hope to make love in the bedroom but he is putting on his clothes! I get upset as I feel rejected and he has a right go at me. Thing is, if he wants to have sex, its different. I've never turned him down. He says he fancies me, wants me but that incident really p****d me off.Wouldn't a normal red blooded male jump at the chance of his attractive lady wanting to make love in the shower? Perhaps he didn't want me at all. He said previous arguments put him off but if that was the case, why agree to make love in the shower as such rows were previous to this?What would you do now? I feel like telling him where to get off when he next wants sex to be honest...but revenge ain't the answer...or is it?? (I mean, I do have a vibrator like most women these days...)Please help.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (21 January 2006):
 Speaking as a red-blooded male the answer is yes, I would jump at that. I can understand why you are hacked off. I would suggest that it would be ok to refuse next time he wants it but don't just do it point blank. If he asks why explain why and how this incident made you feel. Hopefully in future he will be more considerate of your feelings.
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reader, shania +, writes (21 January 2006):
 He probably felt like making love in the shower but i suppose the scene was ruined slightly because you got out due to the water being too cold (that was understandable) so he thought he might as well dry himself and get dressed.I think maybe the timing was wrong and with the stress that you two have been under,its probably fair to say his heart wasnt in it.Why not have a relaxing bath together because i think you two could do with chilling out rather then arguing all the time.Give each other a massage,get to be intimate again...then the sex will follow naturally.
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