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writes: I am a middle aged married woman with two children.We both work full time. My problem is my husbands partying in the evening.He goes out almost 3 times a week in the evening, which puts pressure on me. i have told him inumerable times to limit himself going to once a week where we both can go together and our kids could be left with a nanny.His evening meetings are usually free food and free booze courtsey the companies that we work for.This is causing lot of sulking on my part as he is not ready for any compromise ! Please help...
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reader, Annabelle +, writes (11 June 2006):
Tell him to choose between his family or his party habits.Who knows what he does at these boozy parties?Make the right choice for the sake of your kids.Good Luck!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (11 June 2006):
 Well he is going to have to compromise as its not fair, why should you stay home all the while, when hes out playing! I know its sounds childish, but why dont you play him at his own game, go off out yourself the days he's home and let him look after the children, do this until he compromises, im sure he too would get fed up with it! Marriage is all about compromise, and when one isnt budging the other will always feel resentment until something snaps or changes, in the interest of your marriage you are going to have to sit him down and tell him that he needs to face up to the fact he has a family and he needs to take responsibilty, or tell him he can get out if he wants, if he doesnt spend alot of time there anyway and would rather go out tell him he can have all the time he wants on his own. Hes taking advantage of you and carrying on like this as in the end you are letting him do so, so you need to be firm and let him know that he cant carry on like this as you just wont let him, it will destroy the relationship and he needs to meet you at least half way and help to resolve this and needs to understand hes got to stop being so selfish! hes got start thinking of you and the children and whats best for all of you not just him! He cant carry on as of hes single when hes not!
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