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writes:I have been in a 9 month relatonship. He says he loves me but, he does not act like it. He puts everyone else before me which hurts. We hardly ever have sex and this has been like this since the first time we had it. He also will not call me if he is with family/friends and does not include me with them. Now his mother is here for 2 wks and he will not call me until she leaves, says he needs to spend all his time w/her. Please help. I love him but now i wonder. I told him 3 days ago i wanted to break up. He said will talk about it when hs mother leaves,what is that? were both in our 50's. thanks for your advice Reply to this Question
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reader, dlm +, writes (23 March 2007):
dlm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy boyfriends mother has been gone now for 4 days. He still has not talked to me about us. For those 4 days he has called and said we would talk. Wrong. He has not called me back to discuss us. I don't understand why I put up with him. I am a successful, strong woman. When it comes to relationships I stink. I can give out all the best advice to my friends but...for some reason I'm blind when it comes to mine. He does call but he just keeps on saying we have a lot to talk about. Why is he playing these games? Yes, I did tell him first I wanted to break up but, than I said I just wanted some time alone. I just emailed him and told him don't contact me and I'll send him his stuff. Help.
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reader, dlm +, writes (22 March 2007):
dlm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree with you that he is selfish. He even says so. So his mother left.(by the way I did meet her when she arrived) We keep playing phone tag so we have not talked about our relationship. I told him, all I ever wanted was him to respect me and my feelings. He says he understands why I feel this way but...does nothing about it. I need to figure out why I feel I love him and put up with him. I ask myself I'm I just lonely? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): This is the reason I have just split up with my boyfriend of 6 months. We are both almost 50. He puts everyone before me despite saying I am the person he wants to spend rest of his life with and says he loves me so much. Loving someone is putting them totally first before yourself and everyone else. This man will not change. Dont waste your emotions on him. I am suffering the pain of break up at this moment, but rather that than be treated like a doormat. Men like this are one thing. TOTALLY SELF CENTRED.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): Sorry but i wouldn't stand for that. Why can't you meet his mother? Is he so embarrassed that he has a gf? What is going on? You said you wanted a break and he said that he would talk about it when his mother had gone.
Tell him you want to meet him now, get him to meet you and tell him you should be taken a bit more seriously and if not then you are over. Be strong and let him know how you feel. You shouldn't have to be second fiddle to his family and friends not after 9months.
You are not kids, so let him know what you want and how it is going to be. Finish with him if you don't get the answers that you want and deserve
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): Sorry but i wouldn't stand for that. Why can't you meet his mother? Is he so embarrassed that he has a gf? What is going on? You said you wanted a break and he said that he would talk about it when his mother had gone.
Tell him you want to meet him now, get him to meet you and tell him you should be taken a bit more seriously and if not then you are over. Be strong and let him know how you feel. You shouldn't have to be second fiddle to his family and friends not after 9months.
You are not kids, so let him know what you want and how it is going to be. Finish with him if you don't get the answers that you want and deserve
Take care xx
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