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writes:I have liked one of my guy friend for three years already. Whenever we played the game truth or dare at social events he would admit in truth that he liked someone. I decided to ask him one time who he liked..and he went completely silent on me. I never asked again. It was unclear who he likes.Recently, we were out with some friends celebrating our friend E's birthday. We were at a restaurant and ordered several plates of food. While we were already eating..he used his chopsticks to pick up a piece of his food and put it gently in my plate of food.. another friend we both knew sat next to me and she wanted to try his dish..he shared with her but let her grab it. He didn't even ask me if I wanted some but just did that. I felt it was too kind (like he cares about me as if I was his girlfriend). He only did that to me but no other when we were sitting together with a group of 10 other ppl. Not sure if others notice it and felt different. I was not indifferent at that moment. So the big question, Is there a special meaning for his action?? And does it say he likes me still if I am the person he liked/s ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (23 January 2014):
 Don't read into kind gesture and silly things like food on your plate. Not wanting to burst your bubble. If he like you and wants you as is GF why has he not asked you out. You are setting yourself up for disappointment. If he has not asked you out move on.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (22 January 2014):
 From time to time we get questions like this here. Usually there is a whole list of things over a years time. But, the question is always the same; "does he like me?" Well your answer is the same as well. Either he likes you and is incapable of expressing it properly, or he doesn't like you in that way. There is not enough evidence to say one way or another. While he has not asked you out or declared his feelings to you for three years it is also true that you have not given him the go ahead in all that time either.
To give you a specific answer to your question. Three reasons for his behavior spring to my mind. In order of best outcome for you, not in order of most likely. One She took food from his plate creating an intimacy between him and her, he instinctively rejected her intimacy and offered you that intimacy instead. His subconscious mind intruding to show his preference of you. Second, His background like mine has always held Chinese food as a sharing experience. So when sharing started he continued with the person who was physically closest to him. Third he is protective and is mothering you. Since you know him much better than I do, Which do you think is most likely?
Now for a followup question. How did you react to his advance (if an advance was what it was)? Did you thank him? Did you eat the food? Did you reject the food? Is he somewhere thinking about what you did?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2014): If you were next to him I don't think it's a big deal
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 January 2014):
 What could have possibly prevented him from asking you out these past three years? I would think he would have made a move by now if there were no obstacles. Why haven't YOU asked him out?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 January 2014):
 you were sitting next to him and he easily could put it on your plate without you reaching and taking it.
sharing at a Chinese restaurant is common and normal between friends.. Using his own used chopsticks was a judgement error on his part nothing more.
you obviously like him more than you want to admit and are hoping he feels the same... he may but he may not... the only way to see if he wants more than a casual friendship with you is to ask him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 January 2014):
 Giving you food can both be sweet, but also a little odd?
What if you HATED moo shu chicken? Did he ASK if you wanted any or did he just "feed" you? Or does he KNOW from past experience that that is one of your favorites (for instance).
Or did you order very little, so he wanted to make sure you actually ATE something?
As for the T/D games .. aren't you a little too old for that stuff?
I DO think he likes you, but I wouldn't put any "special meaning" to him sharing his food. I would NOT read more into it, then HIM sharing HIS food with you (and one other girl). The fact that he GAVE you some and not her - might have been that he didn't want to drop the food (as she was on the other side of you, if I understand correctly) so it was easier to let her "serve" herself to some.
It's been 3 years and he hasn't made a move on you. To me that kind of speaks volumes. I think (like I said) he likes you, but not to the extend that he wants to date you. Or I think he would have asked you out by now.
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