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writes: i am really sufferingi spend every night in tears. last year i met a wonderful man and we had a baby girlthough problem is we dont have sex hardly ever, he is honest to me and i do trust him but i am jelous and paranoid because he told me how he used to meet women via the chat rooms and the pub and said he had lots too many but they were just for sex, but with me he wants to settle and doesn't want too f**k around any more,at first when i asked why we dont do it he said because of his medication then it was his drink then it was sex isn't everything, then it was he too tired now he says i am offering it to him and presurising so it puts him offit really hurts me when i think about his past and i think he wanted to f**k them and they were easy but not me, how can i play hard to get when i am with him how can we have that excitment even if i dress sexy and he says i look sexy he makes no move on ,ei try to touch him in bed and he pushes my hand awayhe says dont worry we will make love and that he is finding it hard to adjust hewas on his own for a long timeand he still looks at women every where we go and its killing mehe just says that he is with me and want to be with me and wouldn't hurt me what can i do because i cant take much more
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (11 December 2006):
 eish sister u seem to have done all u possibly can to seduce him and nothing worked. My gez is he told u his sexual history just to show u he does love sex but recently he just cant get it up for whatever reasons, instead of feeling insecure bcos of his stories if u can look at this pattern logically u might find out he never slept with anyone but u, lets face it a man can not have this busy sex life all of a sudden it deteriorates and finally is no more without any logical explanation. i think there is more to it than he is letting on, he probably realized he is gay, or suffering from erectile dysfunction syndrome (eds) or he is not attracted to u anymore and getting it somewhere else there might be a lot of reasons for this but the bottom line is the guy is not being honest with u at all. Try to sit him down and find out what is bothering him tell him u love him and u want to be there for him and whatever it is u believe u can get over it as a couple don’t pressure him men feel embarrassed if they cant get it up, they feel useless and worthless that’s why maybe he is coming with all this sorts of excuses, try to act understanding if he really cant get it up he will need a lot of that and support from u, visit a GP together he or she will refer u guys to someone who specializes in this matter.
Well if he is not suffering from ed and u are not getting any then tell him how u feel still. Atleast u deserve some honest explanation if he doesn’t want u anymore he better tell u so that he doesn’t waste anymore of ur time just stringing u along with his empty words, u deserve to be with someone who will appreciate u as a woman and consider ur needs. if its any consolation u are not paranoid under the circumstances, it is the picture he painted in ur mind and u are just using ur imagination to view it. Hope this works.
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