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*ozzie
writes:I hit my boyfriend in the nose and made it bleed last night after catching him at a club dancing with some woman, what do i do now?We have a history which has been filled with lies, cheating, arguing, but never has he been physically abusive to me. He does make me feel insecure, and used and he lies to me constantly, this time I caught him, although he was only dancing, he told me he was somewhere else. His daughters mom agreed to let him see his daughter (1 1/2 years old) I gave him my car and money to spend the day with them, which he did, but when I called to see how things went, he told me he was at the mall buying her a dora doll. Well after 11:30 pm, I called with no response, after 2 more hours passed i called and blocked my number, he answered, and i heard club music. I took a taxi over and found my car outside, and him inside with a drink in hand and in the corner dancing closely with some girl. I asked him for my keys, and to step outside, we argued, I slapped the drink out of his hand, embarassed him I guess in front of his friends. We walked to the car, we argued, he told me to go home, that I was acting stupid and embarassed him. He said a bunch of other things to piss me off, like he didnt car that he had lied, or spent my money on the club and drinks, and before i knew it in mid sentence, i threatened to kill him, then walked away, turned around and hit him in the nose so hard he flew back and landed on the ground, he cried, and blood gushed down. I am soo sorry, I lost my temper, but i feel like he pushed me too far this time. The straw that broke the camels back. He told me to leave him alone, he had to think, and he wasnt coming home. I left and b4 reaching 4 blocks he called for me to come back for him. I dont know what to think, or do, because I over reacted, this time.
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reader, Rozzie +, writes (21 December 2010):
Rozzie is verified as being by the original poster of the question We broke up and he got married a month later to that woman i saw him with in the club.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): Both of you need counseling. Your relationship with this man will NEVER work out. Never.
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reader, Rozzie +, writes (3 August 2010):
Rozzie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell this is day 2 after the incident. I feel a little better about myself and frame of mind, we are still together (by a string), we talked briefly, I dont believe the talk was as productive. He admitted understanding his fault in this, and wanted us to get past it. He says he is willing to work things out. He did say that the reason he called for me to come back for him wss because he was afraid I was going to hurt myself that night. I am currently seperated from my husband, and this bothers him and seems to be keeping us from moving forward (per him). He demanded I work on my divorce or that he was going to leave (the night of the fight). I think thats what else pissed me off. I have been through so much with him, and for him, I guess I felt used, and taken for granted to the point of anger. He knows I am no longer in love with my husband, and because we all live in the same community, there have been times we have run into him or friends of ours and i admit it was uncomfortable for both of us. Anyway we have a problem, but are still in love with each other, so I guess I am looking now for answers to help me find a way to get through this. Is seperation the only answer????? How will I know if he really wants to work on us??? and fix the problem, or if he just wants to secure his bread winner?????
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reader, dyeruz  +, writes (3 August 2010):
Anger management and very fast, you've threatened to kill him then when you felt you had no power so you hit him, you say this is the straw the broke the camel's back, so is this now going to be your recourse of action whenever you don't get your way, Violence is never the answer, maybe you hit him because despite his lies you know he will never hit you. If you two are not compatible then break up simple as that. There are no excuses for what you did.
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