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female
age
41-50,
*am elaichi
writes:erm.. I saw this guy via a public media, seemed to be so understanding, matured and honestly said he diabetic but really wishes to be married to me. I took my time but found him charming enough to say a yes. Eversince, no phonecalls from me is picked up or my smses be replied until he feels he want to speak to me or reply to my smses. I have seen him only twice over 1 month -since he proposed! ( that too after I requested repeatedly). He claims he is too busy with his work day time and goes out in the nights, None of his calls are made till midnight strikes, that too which lasts about 5 mins. Recently he changed job and was on leave for 3 days but never asked me out. When I asked for his unreasonable behavior, he says he needs me to go slim and pretty before he wants to ask me out. All of contents of his smses to me is "where are you?", "whats are you doing?" and after he goes missing for days a "Good morning, how are you". Please tell me whats going on here. All I feel is being disappointed and deprived of a good mutual relationship. (He never laid a finger on me too). Reply to this Question
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reader, tam elaichi +, writes (5 April 2011):
tam elaichi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks deirdre11, I guess thats what I am going to do exactly with him. Thanks to the Anonymous Male reader, your reply gave me the ability to see the whole thing through a fresh eye. Thanks alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): I would cut all contact with this man. If you were to get into anything serious with him, that is how your relationship would be, he would be doing a disappearing act. It seems to be one rule for him and another for you, don't answer his texts or phone calls, make him cop on and see that you have a life that doesn't revolve around him.Go out with friends, join a gym/club or some social group and meet other people, forget about this guy he just wants to manipulate you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Hi there,
warning bells are ringing here with me after reading your post!
Dont get involved with this man. He is the typical control freak. Everything is on his terms. Calls, replies to texts and he has the cheek to tell you to slim? I bet he aint no adonis himself. Love is based on love and respect and not tell someone how to look, react or pickup when they feel like it.
Would you treat someone like the way hes treating you? I BET NOT. If you did would you respect that person if they put up with this behaviour. I BET NOT.
This is just the tip of the iceberg of his personality, dont stick around to experience worse. Its better to be single and be true to yourself, than being attached and too scared to express the real you.
Good luck and love.
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