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writes:My boyfriend previously cheated. We got back and agreed that he wasn't to take girls numbers to earn back trust. But one day whilst at his new job and they were all out on a work nite out they exchanged numbers for a meeting point. Since then I found out he was texting her nearly every nite behind my back but deleting all the messages. When i questioned him he said no he wasn't in touch with her. I finally got a hold of his phone bill and confronted him with the evidence. He says it was all innocent that he was having problems at work and turned to her for advice. I believe he was first to get in touch with her because she never text when i was about.I really wanted to make things work but i feel so hurt inside that he was capable once again of lying to me especially given our circumstances and knowing he was to do everything in his power to earn my trust back. He is 25 and I'm 27. I don't know where to take things now as this is a broken promise. I imagined my whole life with him, he is my first love but i can't be with someone who is deceitful to me-right? What can i do or will he always do his own thing irrespective of how it may affect me? Thanks
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reader, SexKitten69 +, writes (13 March 2007):
 Hi,You need to think honestly to yourself and hopefully see that he doesn't respect your wishes..... You asked him to stop messing around withpeople and texting and if he respected you and your wishes he wouldn't have done it!I know it's hard to let someone go, especially your first love but there are plenty of people in the world that are willing to love and respect you.Imagine if you leave things as they are and put this situation behind you..... In the long run things will get worse, even though it doesn't sound like he's cheated on you from some text what happens if you stay with him and things to progress onto him cheating again?Get rid (Easier said than done - I know) but the last thing you need is having this situation playing constantly on your mind!Take care and i hope everything goes in your favourKaz(Please rate this reply) : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): I think you know the answer to this one yourself. Once a cheat always a cheat, sorry! He may of been your first love, but he won't be your last! You wanted him to stop getting in touch with girls and he didn't - what more proof do you need? he won't change, they say they will and they never do. Please have a good talk with him, but i think you will be best rid of this one, sorry.
Take care
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