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writes:I have been married for a couple of years and have a beautiful son.Over the last 6 mths or so, I found my husbands email account open and he was asking his ex for nude photos etc and emails about their past relationship.My husband is away alot, she lives close by. She is recently single.I have confronted him and threatened to leave previously. He promised it would never happen again etc.....now I have found the emails have started again.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much for replying to my question.
It gets so confusing and I don't know what to do. But we talked on the phone as he is away working at the moment, and for a while me and my son are moving to the other side of town. Get our own spaces and see how it goes from there. He has promised again that it will never ever happen again and she is something of the past and didn't realise what he was really doing to me from the emails.
But he has decided to give me my space and he said that he would do anything to regain my trust and love back, and he has deleted her from his life.
Well I guess I can only wait and see what time and space can do.
Thank you for all your reply's. I hope really hope this works.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 March 2010):
You have to leave. He has broken his promise, and you threatened to leave. You have to follow through, because if you don't he'll just use you for the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): if you threatened to leave, you really need to now follow up on that, otherwise he will know he can cheat on you whenever he wants and you'll always stick around. That's why you should never make a threat unless you're willing to go through with it.
By the way, no guy who is married and has a son with someone will cheat on their wife if they love and respect them. He sounds like a right looser. Asking his ex for nude pictures and going on about their past? What a creepy man. No woman deserves that.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 Make sure you have foolproof evidence and confront him about it. If he stops , then the issue is closed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): I've experienced the same situation before, Although I'm not married. My boyfriend was emailing his ex and talking about me, talking about their past relationship and also alot of sexual stuff.
I was broken hearted but I forgive him and I'm still with him now but will never forget it. I told him if anything at all like that happened again I'd leave him and never speak to him again and he hasn't done anything since.
You're in quite a tricky situation though because you're actually marrid and have a child with him so it's not as easy to leave. If it was me personally, I think I'd leave the second time he done it. You need to speak to him, ask him why he's doing this and if he's not happy in the relationship with you. Ask him if he still has feelings for his ex. Before you know, he could've done physical stuff with his ex the fact she's single and she lives 'close'
You obviously can't trust this man and what's a relationship without trust? He isn't treating you AND his son with any respect. If it was me i'd go my seperate ways and just let him have a relationship with his son. But obviously you're not me and I'm not sure how you handle things etc. Don't pitty him, he isn't worth it.
All the best.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (29 March 2010):
Is this the beginning of the end/ Presume he may have known that you would find these e-mails, this that terrible phase of 'grass is greener over there' you come across as in coontrol but I imagine your emotions are shot.
Why do the people we love behaviour like this, why do they think it is OK. THis is now the second time and he has not heeded the warning!
Send him away for a few weeks and then see how you feel. This mess is all of hiis making, keep him away and do not spaek to him. In a month see how you feel?
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