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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Right now, I get to see J. once or twice a week because of work. I'm leaving Tuesday for a wedding and won't be back for two weeks. Yesterday, he told me nothing. Calls me up out of nowhere to go fishing at 8pm and I find out he sees me because his friends changed THEIR plans to go fishing with him. I'm pissed. Today, he goes out with them again. I tell him during conversation: wow, won't see you for two weeks, but you'll manage. And he says something I don't quite catch. He tells me to have fun and I tell him the same. We hang up. My question is: am I overreacting in thinking that if he did care for me as he says, I would have had this weekend? Or at least a full day? I feel very hurt and I really feel I should end it. There are men who really do want to be with me, have sacrificed for me, expecting no reward. Why did I fall for someone whose now showing me he doesn't give a shit? P.S I am nineteen, he is 34. He is Hispanic, I am black.
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reader, SillyB  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Yes, this is not normal. When a man is in love with you, he wants to spent loads of time with you. Race has nothing to do with it. Honestly, this a decision you can only make - what will you tolerate and what do you want? You are right, there will be a guy that will want to spend time with you and this really isn't right. He's not making you a priority.
Read these two books "why men marry bitches" and "he's just not into you". Entertaining reads, but outline just how a man should be treating you if he truly loves you.
I dated a guy for 8 years who barely ever wanted to do anything with me. Dragging him out to a coffee store was a big deal...so I left him and found a wonderful man who spends alllll his time with me. You deserve better.
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