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writes: So basically I liked this guy for a year and he didn't like me and we became good friends meanwhile I kept flirting with him. Then on valentines day which is also his bday he told me he liked me so we went out and made out (only kissing tho) we were on and off dating for about a month but when we werent dating we still made out (friends with benefits I guess). Right now we are in a FWB phase but we haven't seen each other in a week (we will see each other this coming Monday.) I've been thinking about him a lot and think I still like him but I dont know if he likes me. When we were dating he would only want to make out when we saw each other but I want a relationshiP where we go out and have fun not just making out. How do I tell him this and see whether he actually likes me or just wants benefits? I love being FWB with him but don't want to go too far with him but I also wAnt a relTionship but I also want to be able to flirt with other guys! We text a lot and if we text at night we often talk dirty and reel each other what wewant to do with each other and he always says I want to have sex with you. He says he only wants to be FWB with me cos we are so close. Oh, and we're only 13.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 You are way to young to have sex, and even if you were older you don't want to give up your virginity to someone who only wanted to be a fwb. You would hate yourself for it later.
But that doesn't mean quite the same thing at your age. So tell me what is the difference between how often you are seeing him and talking to him now them when you were dating?
What does he do different? Because to me, if he is always coming over and making out with you, it sounds like he does like you. And that yeah, he is kind of your boyfriend no matter what he wants to call it.
So if the problem is that you want to do other thing with him like go to the movies, or out for a slice of pizza, then you just have to say no making out until after we go grab something to eat, or take a long walk, or whatever.
But if he makes out with you one day when you are alone together and then pretends like he doesn't know you the next day at school or if says mean things about you, like that you are not his girl friend to his friends or other girls he likes, then you should tell him off and to stay away from you.
One last thing you have to remember, as one of the first girlfriends in his life, you are setting the standard for all the girls to come after you. So if you let him treat you badly and still make out with him whenever he wants, he is going to expect that from every girl he ever goes out with.
You have to give something to get something in this world. No free rides. If he wants to treat you like a girlfriend then he should act like a boyfriend, and call himself your boyfriend too.
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