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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello, after a long, confusing and heartbreaking few years my lifes finally ended on a dull note. Me and a friend had known each other a while and although we never really spoke something felt weird. As time went on sitruations changed and we eventually became good friends. A couple of things changed i noticed he became abit more like a friend, he would make the occasional joke and spoke abit more. Then we had afew nights out that ended in utter confusion. We got extremely close. I wont go into detail but we got very close and it did cross my mind that it was just having fun as friends but the stuff he did was way to intimate and he went to far. I never said anything as it went back to the way it was before. Although afew little things did hint after that that he wanted me.I eventually told him and he said he never felt that way. And that night we were in that pub together he was wasted. None of this made sense as hes not the type to do anything if he doesnt mean it, espically since he knew how i felt (well he says he did and i know people had told him). Also he wasnt that drunk, he knew what he was doing, he said he enjoyed it and if he regreted it that much he wouldn't have done it again.We kept talking and subjects got brought up. He said he was weird with me as he never knew what to say to me and he was always waiting for me to tell him how i felt. He wanted me to tell him and he said hes glad i finally have.I accepted his answer, we are still friends and im greatful for that as hard as it is. However i found out later on from one of our friends that my friend had asked him if he liked me and he replied "as a friend...I;d like her more if she wasnt so possesive about me with other girls" WHICH IVE NEVER EVER BEEN! I dont know where that came from. I didnt know what he meant by he;d like me more.But even so im very confused. I accept ive gotta just try and enjoy what we have and work on our friendship but everyone has said he clearly wanted me and hearing what he said to my mate has just confused me. And also why he always wanted me to tell him how i felt. The reason i didnt was because i knew in a way that he knew and i didnt see the point for him just to say no. I just want to clear my head up if im going to make this friendship work. What do you think went off? Something doesnt add up..
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (27 July 2010):
 I'd be a bit cautious about this guy. He sounds like a flip flopper. Meaning he changes his stance on something to suit the situation. Keep you eyes wide open and don't get too invested until you've worked him out.
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