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writes:So me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and I thoughtwe had a pretty solid relationship. Over the christmas period we didnt see much of each other as we both work in retail and were working silly hours. We managed to find time before the new year abd he said he had something to tell me in person, cut that part short he didnt tell me as he felt it wasnt the right time as we were giving each other gifts. This week he finally told me that he has a 6 year old child and has known about her for 6 years but doesn't see her. His reason for not telling me was that he didn't want me to feel like i had a responcibilty and his reason for now telling me was that he felt it was better that i knew that didn't know, do you think that theses are decent answers?
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (12 January 2010):
 He may have just found out about her himself...? At any rate,I think his answer is acceptable. The worst thing he did was wait 3 years (if he knew about her all that time) and he may have been afraid you'd run the other way if he'd told you sooner.
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (11 January 2010):
 He was probably afraid of losing you in the beginning...and then because he waited, he knew you would want to know why.
It took him this long to muster up the courage. Whatever the reason, you now know.
He may not be in his life right now, but you need to prepare yourself for a time when that might change.
We are in a society of extended families these days, and accepting a person's child is part of loving that person!
Whatever the future brings it is up to the couple to work it all out together!
I wish you both luck!
~BG~
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