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writes: i have been seeing my boyfriend for a year at the begin of jan,we only ever spend 1 eving /night tog,firstly it was about evry 3 weeks,now its about evry 10 days or so,but he spent xmas eve,xmas day/boxing day morning with me -and sent e-mail 2hours after left thanking me for lovely meal.my problem is he just does-n't talk about himself-friends,family'childhood etc(i'm not pushing for feelings)but we talk all the time about everything else-current affairs,tv,popular people etc-and me,what ihave been doing ,my work,friends etc-trouble is i need no prompting to be open about what i do,childhood etc-i dont want to do 50 questions etc.sorry is long questionjust dont know how to get him to open up abit-ok he's not telling me lies like other guys i have known -i think am am a bit in love-but dont want to get hurt-but dont want to scare him off-help-and yet we are dead relaxed together-but is driving me nuts -want to know so much more - i myself am not much good with talking bout my feelings to the person they are about-help
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reader, jojo2 +, writes (29 December 2006):
jojo2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi Angel of love,thanks for your reply -no I havn't been to his place,as is lodging with friends,although when I went out with him a little 11 years ago I used to go to his house-he never talked about himsef much then,but it didn't seem to bother me much then,and i was always busy so in the end he stoped phoning.
I think you are pobibly right about him being embarrassed
about being sensitive,i feel he has posibly not had a good loving childhood and doesnt feel very succesfull.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (28 December 2006):
 Some men may find it difficult talking about their life, maybe because they are embarressed of being perceived as sensitive about their feelings.
he may also see this relationship as a "escapism" to his daily routine. Have you been to visit him at his house.
Without giving him spanish inquisition, drop a question or two about this family and friends or simply ask him why he does not talk about it.
He may not realise what is important to you unless you let him know.
Good luck xxx
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