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writes:Do you think if a guy lies about what he does for a living it says something more about himself? Do you think he's lying about other things? Or he's just a liar in general?The weird thing is, that he hasn't technically lied about his work. He just sort of implied something, and I now realize I had assumed the rest. But the thing is, he never corrected me later when I referred to what I had assumed as his job title (sorry this is vague and confusing, I don't want to reveal too much. Let's just say that I thought he was a doctor, I referred to him as a doctor but he's actually a massage therapist --if that makes sense). Honestly what a guy does isn't that important to me (as a result the title and pay aren't important either). I feel like it might be a pride issue and maybe in his head it's the same thing. So I havne't called him out on it or anything. And the thing is, he should know I could easily look this up online and find out the truth (which is how I found out, it's all public info). But now I'm wondering if this could be an indication of something worse....
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reader, boo22  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Hi, Are you seeing this guy? If so for how long, or are you considering dating him?
My friends in a similar spot, but she's been seeing her guy for about 4 months and she called him out on it a few days ago.
Exactly like your situation, he was lying about or rather greatly exaggerating what he does for a living. It got to the stage where she was questioning everything he said to her in her head so she had to confront him.
Before she cottoned on to the fact he was fibbing, he was the perfect guy. Treats her really well, he's taken her on exotic holiday's and the sex is incredible. She's told him no more of the billy bullshit but said it in such a way that's left the door open to continue without hurting his pride too much.
I think he lied to you cos he's insecure and doesn't feel enough for you so made out like he's a doctor. It's the same for my friend. Obviously, if my friends bf gets discovered in any more lies he'll de dumped cos she won't be able to trust him. She's hoping it'll be a fresh start.
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reader, sweetspicy +, writes (15 April 2010):
 No I think your just over analyzing the situation. All therapists of what ever kind even nurses need schooling just like a doctor, they also treat people in a way that a Doctor does and depending on how much schooling he's had he might have a PHD or thinks he will someday. It sounds like hes just really into his job and thinks more of himself than just a therapist.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 He's a scam and trying to be someone else than he is. I wouldn't trust him. In fact I find it hard to trust people who let me go ahead and assume things without correcting me. Makes me think that things are okay when they in fact are not okay at all. He could be lying about multiple things sweetie. If you only recently met this man and there are no deep feelings involved, I dont think it's worth hanging around to see what else he lies about. Maybe he does not see it as "lying", but it certainly is fooling or misleading, which can be just as bad. Or he could just have dreadful explanation-skills. Anyway, this is a red flag. Avoid.
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