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writes: My husband says he is not taking care of any chores because he has to work. When I tell him, that is not right and he needs to do something too around the house etc, he says you are bitching at me all the time, why would I spend time with you? He is a workaholic burned out, also impotent from overwork. How can I make him accountable for the responsibility he has as a father, and a lover if he always covers himself with work? He says he loves me, but I don't believe him. It's been going on for years! What is the way out of this? thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): I think more info is needed here but if you are a stay at home mom and he is working all day away from home, exactly how is it unfair if he does not do work around the house? If he works 40 plus hours per week outside of the home and assumes some or all of the yard work I think that would be more than his fair share of the work.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (19 November 2009):
 He probably does love you or else he would have left. He sounds stressed out and exhausted. That is no excuse for not helping at home though. You could go on strike and do nothing at home for a while, then he may appreciate just how much you really do! Or you could become his personal career advisor. If he is a workaholic then his skills will be in demand to lots of employers. Why not suggest that he finds another job requiring less commitment, and even help him to find one! I also think the relationship fatigue could be helped by finding time for each other outside the home, away from the dirty dishes. Although he sounds busy it is important to make time for nights out together now and again to rekindle the relationship away from the drudge of daily life.
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