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writes:Well, my boyfriend is in the Army and is currently training out of state (AIT). Things have been a bit dull between us because of how busy he is, but we managed to keep the love alive. Anyway, I just recently got over an obsession after his ex. It took quite the work but I managed to settle down my jealousy and obsession. It's been three months since he mentioned his ex.However, just recently, he and I were chatting over MSN. I was telling him about how I named my bow in Archery Poseidon. He proceeded to tell me that he and his army buddies had to give their m-16a1 rifles girl names. When I asked him what he named his....he replied with his ex's name. I was torn. When I asked why, he said it was because he had to think of one last minute and give a reason why. I didn't ask more after that, but he mentioned that he got the rifle 2nd week of basic, which was late 2009, and he and his ex broke up around 2007...Ever since, I've started obsession about his ex again. I keep looking at her photos on the social network she goes to, and I keep comparing myself to her like I used to. My boyfriend doesn't know a thing about this, and he especially doesn't know that my obsession led to bulimia.I know it's awful. I have my bulimia under control now but I fear it will return. My question is: should I be concerned that he named his rifle after his ex even if it's been years that they've ended (they lasted for 4 years). Thank you for reading.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 If he names his rifle back in 2009, why did he tell you about this now? Were you dating him at the time when he named the rifle?
Yes he must be silly. People sometimes slip up, but didn't see this one coming? How did he react to your reaction upon hearing the rifles name?
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reader, Spades  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 Quiet-echo hit it right on the nose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone. This helps tremendously. I did post about my obsession with his ex here quite a while actually. It's pretty long but if you would like to read here is the link:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/obsession-with-army-boyfriends-ex.html
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 He named a cold metallic object that kills men after his ex and you're jealous because??
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reader, gizzymylove +, writes (16 June 2010):
 I have been at that point the thing is while you obsess over this chick who cares enough about you to stare at your pics. I found the answer out one night alone the answer is you .....
That crap with the ex's name for the gun is crap I would be mad but instead tell him to go ahead and tattoo that on his forhead becaues at this rate your never going to stop thinking of her your more important then this be strong you can do better but you have to know it first please say it out loud how great you are then let him know that was a bit silly and that makes you wounder be strong.......... more fish in the sea
hope it works out
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): i think he may still have feelings for her but he still loves you. =[
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