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writes:I think I'm fairly good looking I work out take good care of my self always make sure hair make-up is awesome cute sexy clothes but my husband has this thing for anal sex and I would rather be horse wiped I HATE it for one he is blessed down there so it's like hell no it don't fit .But on occasions I have tried to make both me and him happy and do the deed but thats only every other blue moon we have sex like 4-5 times a week no problem but he looks at all kinds of booty porn wet butt sites and anal porn he says its becaues he dont get it at home and he doesnt expect to do to the level of uncomfort it brings I was just woundering does this make me less attractive to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): If I was you I would have properly lost it with him by now and said "If you really want to risk our relationship over anal sex then fine but I'm never going to enjoy it, I'm going to be in pain then fine but I'm going to end up resenting you if you keep bringing it up and blaming your disgusting porn habit on me!"
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 June 2010):
 Whether or not you have anal sex with him has no effect on whether he will look at porn. It sounds like a great excuse, but he's just trying to excuse his looking at porn by blaming it on you. Not cool. He's basically doing two mean things with this. One, he's trying to pressure you into doing something you don't want to do by looking at porn, which sounds like something you don't like. Two, he's blaming his porn habit on you. To answer one, you absolutely should not do something that hurts to please him sexually. You said you don't want to do that, and he needs to respect that. The other thing, he's going to look at porn even if you have anal sex with him every day. It doesn't or shouldn't make you less attractive to him. I personally wouldn't stay with a guy who was trying to pressure me into doing something that hurt by hurting me emotionally, but that's just me.
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reader, benguela +, writes (16 June 2010):
Many men say they become involved in affairs because these women are giving them what their wives won't. But I don't think that's necessarily true. If you avoided sex altogether, that would be different. But you try hard to be appealing to him, you enjoy being intimate with him and you are willing to make him happy at your own expense. I think you should openly talk to him about it and tell him that because you love him so much, you want all your sexual ordeals to be as pleasing as possible. And that unfortunately that is not the case, if you two engage in anal sex, as it is really uncomfortable for you and you are unable to enjoy the sex as much as you usually do. You really shouldn't do anything you do not like, even if he is your husband. You need to let him know about your feelings, otherwise it will cause problems later on in your marriage. Good luck!
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reader, jadepaladin +, writes (16 June 2010):
i think he's lying about the reason he's watching porn, he'd still do it even if you did give him anal all the time. but i don't think he finds you less attractive because of it. the best thing to do would be to ask him if there is anything you could do to be more attractive to him and see what he says. note--if you ask something like that and expect honesty you can't be mad when he is honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): I dont think it makes you less attractive to him but it is probably frustrating if u actually say - Hell NO!
U sure that there isnt a way to make it more pleasurable? I have only done it with 2 bfs - The first was not so well endowed but it always hurt like hell. The second was quite blessed and he never hurt me.
Try doing a google search for how to prepare for it, might be position or something.
Good Luck - Is there anything he wont do for you? We all have a right to say no - But does he deny you anything sexual? Does that make him any less attractive to you?
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