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anonymous
writes:hello,i meet this man 9 years ago when he was my pe coach and i fell in love with him but i never told him because he left but i told him after 5 years . then he told me that he was not good for me and that iam a good girl.then he travelled we kept in contact.I told him that i still have feelings for him but he was saying we are friends will have to talk about this soon when we meet.Then he suddenly told me that he is in a relationship i got mad and asked why did'nt you tell me this from the begining. He then said i did not promise you any thing except friendship but now its unhealthy for as to remain in touch.I was first very hurt then i found out that he really wasnt good for me he has some really bad habits that i would not like.Now my question is that iam going to visit some friends who know him is it a good idea to talk to him if i meet him or should i avoid the whole situationits been 2 years now since we stopped contact he has married and iam engaged.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (17 May 2008):
 Well, I can't understand why you would want to speak with him. To me, that's just opening up a can of pain. It seems that your attraction is over and done with. Not to mention that you're engaged and have decided to be in a committed relationship. I don't see any value in digging up the past. Plus, what's the point? Do you need closure on something that seems pretty much done with? What's your motivation for stirring things up again that (probably) won't result in anything?
I'd just let it go. If you ran into him on the street or something, be nice, chit-chat a little bit, then be done with it.
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