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writes:hi there, i feel like im going mad. i had up until a couple of days ago what i thought was a normal relationship with my partner and then the other day he walked out. last night he came home and told me that he was leaving me and going back to his flat but assured me that it wasnt the end that he loved me and that we should date i was absolutley broken hearted because although we have had problems i thought that we were a couple and that we could put some energy into fixing things. i trusted him and when he said that he would get in touch today i believed him but he has not answered any of my texts ven those that i have said if its over just let me know instead of keeping me in limbo but ive heard nothing all day and i feel so screwed up. ive given this man everything even to paying for his motorbike and keeping the house we live in i cant take this much more i love him and feel so desperate to hear from him what can i do i cant believe he will take the chickens way out but this is what it looks like he aint got it in him to tell me its over what should i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): Hi,
I'm in the exact same situation. In the dark with no clue what's going on.
In the past I've let him be and he's always got back to me and we've resolved any issues. (Men have the cheek to say WE'RE moody)
The longest we've not spoken for has been 2 weeks but this time it's different.
Do what I'm trying to do - rechannel all ur energy into positive things, surround yourself with people who love and respect you and fill yourself up with love for YOU again.
There's only so many times we can be treated like this before it's game over.
Before you fall sleep, replay your day over in your head and change the ending to one that makes you smile.
I hope you get the result you're after, take extra good care of yourself, you sound like a good soul.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (17 May 2008):
 Ok you've got go and have a nice relaxing bath and then sit down and have a cup of tea and watch tele. Do not send any more texts, ring , e-mail or anything. This chap is going for the 'I want a bit of space' thing which they like doing and women do not understand. Nothing and I mean nothing is going to be accomplished tonight. You have already texted him and told him how you feel and to respond and you have had no reply. Give him time. My ex husband used to say that women want answers at a particular speed and men just don't think like we do. I know if someone asks me something I can decide within 10 mins but men can't or won't. They take a long time to make a decision and don't like being pushed. I found to my cost that me trying to get him to answer me and my increasingly irate texts got me no where. In the end he took an injunction out against me so don't get started down that route! Leave him alone today. Tomorrow is another day. He will have slept, probably talked to his friends and then he will be more approachable. If you feel desperate for contact tomorrow leave it until at least mid morning /the afternoon and then just send a text saying that you hope he is ok and that you would like to chat. If you again get no response or he hasn't already rung you leave it. I know this in unbearably hard and I really do but honestly leave him alone. You have made your point, shown you are interested and you care so the rest is down to him.
Look after yourself tonight. Take care.
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