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writes: Ok well i was going out with this guy "Nikko" and we hit it off. It started off slow, with movie dates and hanging out ect. I told him that i was gunna move soon so i didnt want to get to attached, but he was so addicting. We rele liked each other and he finally said I love you :)i was so happy. We went out and about 2 to 3 weeks later i moved. He said we wuld never brake up that he loved me. Befor i moved, wich was the week of Christmas, he gave me an engagment ring. I never felt the way i did with anyone but him. But as the sayings go you have to let go to see if it comes back. So i did.. He begged for me to take him back and nearly cried. I took him back a while later and we were happy, more than happy if anything. Then one day something happened to my fone so i couldnt call and the internet was down so we havent talked for a week. I went on a local chatting website and saw his status. At first they were missing me and wanting to hear from me but slowly changed to the daily things he was doing. I sent me a message saying how much i missed him and i loved him, he said the same back but along with, we need to talk.. I was scared right there. He said how he felt i was missing out on experience being with him and all the way over here in a new place and that he was too. That we should live our teen life before being committed. And that i was no doubt the one he wanted to be with in the end. He wanted to marry me and have me in his future. So to me it sounds that he wants to fool around before being committed. Part of what he says makes sense to me but i dont want it to. You see i love this guy with all my heart and more. Its been about a month and still i only have eyes for him. So my question to you is, should i just forget about him and move on or keep him in my life as a friend and see what happens??
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (12 February 2010):
 Your boyfriend recognizes something that you should pay attention to: while he obviously does care about you and values the friendship, he understands that both of you are very young and should be dating others.
You see, part of being a young teenager and starting to grow and gain experience in life, is that you don't commit to any one person (if you were, say, 25 it would be a different matter). I know you love him, and are disappointed at this turn of events, but truthfully, since you have moved away, long-distance relationships, even for older, more experienced people, can be quite difficult to maintain. Remember: you yourself told him at the outset that you would be moving and didn't want to get too attached.
There's no harm in keeping in touch with the occasional letter, text or phone call. Just don't put a lot of emotional energy and expectations into it. (If, on the other hand, you do keep in touch as casual friends and then a few years from now both of you realize the feelings are deeper and you want more, that will be different. Icing on the cake. But as already said, don't count on it).
I'm sure you have lots of schoolwork and other school activities, girl friends, and perhaps will meet other boys you like - when that happens, just take it slow, don't put too much into it, and just enjoy.
I do hope this helps!
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