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writes:For 6 years my best friend Mike told me he was in love with me, everyday he would tell me but I just couldn't risk our friendship. When I say we were best friends I mean literally. We told each other EVERYTHING, spent every single day together, even having sleep over at each others houses. Finally 3 months ago I agreed to go out on a date with him, and relaized that maybe there was more to our friendship then I knew.Since then we have been dating. Then on saturday night he went out to a prty and got drunk and ended up messing around with some slut. He keeps saying that he loves me and that he wa drunk but I just dont know what to do. I love hima nd want to forgive him but at the same time I keep thinking if he really cared he wouldnt have done it. What do I do. By the way we are both 20 yrs old.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): I am sorry that he did that. I have been really drunk before and have been tempted to do things I wouldn't normally do, but temptation is one thing, actually following through is another. I suppose the plus side of this is that he told you. I am curious why you weren't at the party with him? If you are best friends and now lovers too, shouldn't you have been at this party together?Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): unfortuantly in a drunken state we have all done things we would not have normally done... mine was flashing the bartender.. and the guys... (who looked like steve from blues clues).. i was and still am in a very fullfilling relationship..
I felt bad and learned to drink less. I told him.. he was upset..but, i did not mean it.. i was drunk.. and would never do that again.
6 years vs. 6-60 min.. of stupid drunk.
my point is my dear contender is- he told you and did not have to.
he told you because he loves you, not to hurt you.. but because it would hurt more not to tell you.
you know what you should do, i think you are just a tad bit scared.. but 6 yrs?
i wouldn't give up 6yrs for a drunken moment that someone had no controll over. not even if lapdances and chickens were involved.
I would give it up if he were sober and straight. but that I guess is just me.
you weigh it out and see what answer you come up with
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reader, tnasty +, writes (24 July 2009):
sounds like he has feelings for you but dosnt want a relationship maybee friends with benefits and if you just started dating idk people try to keep their options open you know but if he said he loved for the past 6 years idk thats kinda hard
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reader, 789456  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 If i was in your situation, I would give him another chance..i think it really was an accident because he had alcohol in his system, but if he is still in contact with the girl that he messed around with, then just forget it. If he says he loves you then let him prove it. If you decide to take him back, it might be really hard for you to trust him again..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): As he was drunk and it was a one time thing if he TRULY sounds sorry and remorseful and you think you can forgive him I would probably give it another go. But you should definitely make him know how much he hurt you first.
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