He may be the father of another woman's child and I'm finding it hard to trust him!

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am married to my husband of almost 5 years and we have 2 beautiful daughters together. We have been going through some rough times lately because we found out he may be the father to another little girl who is the result of an affair that happened a couple years before we got married. We chose to move past it, fixed our relationship as best we could and then created our family. Now, I feel myself sinking down into the problem that i cant trust anything he tells me. When we found out about this child, he was taken to court, has to take a DNA test and will find out in about a month if he is the father. My issue isnt that, because Iknew he had cheated on me with this woman. My issue now is that Friday, the day he found out about this, he completely ignored me, didnt come home all night long and then didnt come home until late Saturday. I feel like he was out cheating on me but then on the other hand, I know that it may have been that he just didnt know how to face me with the hurt he had caused me. I would really like to trust that he didnt do me wrong. Another thing that bothers me is that when we were sexually active a couple of days ago, there was barely any sperm produced. Is this a sign that he was with someone a few days ago? We had not been intimate before that for probably 2 or 3 weeks so it just seems odd to me that he would not have produced a lot of semen because normally, he does. I know this question may seem weird and i am embarrased to even ask a question like this. Please give me some advice.

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