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writes:I am 45 and my husband is 50 just divorced and I met this man 18 years older than me. He has been supportive throughout my divorce. He has just recovered from colon cancer when I met him. He's got no children. He said I am a huge boost to him and make him feel really good. My Life with this man is very different. He likes quiet and peace. Weekends he likes to go to countryside and I like shopping in busy town centre. We are trying to find the happy medium. But still I am going his way more than myself. However he makes me feel secure and wanted. I feel great when he tries his best to please me in bed which my husband never did. But when I think about his age, I just dont know am I doing the right thing? Please help
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 I think he is a mature, experienced, easygoing nice person. He makes you happy. He makes you feel secure. wanted. You should feel great. You are middle aged woman and he is old. I mean you are both beyond your youth. In this case, I think really, age is nothing but a number for you. Because he fits almost perfectly to you.
What are you going to do with age, in what way it can really bother you. Nothing. Under normal conditions he may pass away before you but when the time comes you will also be older.
18 years of differnce would matter if you were 18 and he was 40. Because you would have been inexperienced and young and prone to making a mistake, and he would have been experienced and really old relatively. But it is not the case.
Come on live your life to the full with him.
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reader, calamitysil +, writes (26 November 2007):
 It's only natural that you are starting to worry about the age difference. When we get to a certain age, things start going wrong with our health. You're probably worrying about how much time you'll have with him. But you know, even if you're with someone younger, he could be hit by a car, struck down with cancer etc. You feel good around each other so you have something special together. The fact that you're happy to find middle ground with him (he's a quiet-life type, you're not)shows you care enough about him to meet him half way.Don't worry about the age factor. Better you have less years with someone you really love and cherish than many years with someone with whom you have a miserable life. Go for quality, not quantity ;-)
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