| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: I broke up with my bf a month ago. We were only together for a month and a week, but it was all extremely intense, and i was sure he really loved me. When we broke up, he said it was because i was too young (i'm 15, he had just turned 18 a few days before). I can tell when he's lying, and i asked him for his real reason, which he didn't give me. a few days later i discovered he was now going out with a girl called Emma, who we had both met two weeks before when he admitted to me that he liked her. I had confirmation that they had started going out the day we broke up. To me this was totally crushing, especially as my friends have been talking to him recently and he's been saying how he loves her and they're really happy.Since we broke up i've been falling apart. i've lost a lot of weight and sometimes i cut myself. I'm always on edge and the smallest thing will set me off crying. I've completely lost all self-confidence and all interest in the opposite sex. I was so sure that he loved me and we were so perfect for eachother. The one thing that's stopped me from completely breaking down is the thought that their relationship can't possibly last, as it was built on lies. She can't even spell his name! how could she possibly love him?As their relationship draws closer to the amount of time that our relationship lasted i'm beginning to realise that i can't just spend all my time waiting for them to end so i can get back with him. I thought that i wanted him back, but actually all i want is to rewind 6 weeks and go back to how things were. I know that if i could just talk to him i could get things sorted and have closure, but i can't trust him to tell me the truth so i'm stuck in the state that i am, which i can't stand. I know he still cares about me; he bumped into one of my friends in town and asked her how i was. When she said she wasn't sure he gave her his number so she could find out then text him so he'd know. I'm in such a mess, how can i get over him? The problem is that i don't want to get over him cause he made me happy for the first time in my life. Help! (p.s. sorry it was so long)
View related questions:
broke up, crush, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, smeedle  +, writes (23 February 2006):
 This guy is a rat and you need to work through your grief of loosing him and the one relationship that has made you feel good.
Life is full of knocks like this but you will learn to face them head on, you are stronger than you think you just need to work on your self confidence a little more.
You are a bright inteligent girl who just met the wrong bloke at the wrong time, you will meet a nice caring bloke one day and all this will just be a bad memory.
You need to do what Jadzia suggests and visit the web and if possible talk to someone about your self harming as this needs proffessional help and they will be better able to give you other ways to help you cope in stressfull situations in the future.
Dont hang around for this bloke, you cannot turn back time and he is not worthy of your love, so move on with the rest of your life and put him behind you.
A
female
reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (23 February 2006):
 You need to talk to your mother, father, school counselor, teacher or coach. Tell them how much this is affecting you to the point of cutting. If one adult downplays or dismisses your feelings then go to another adult.
The feelings your going through are very strong and you need to learn some better coping techniques.
A website with a few ideas http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/resisting_cutting.html
The best way you can find help is in counseling, ask your school or your doctor about it.
...............................
|
