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writes:Ive been seeing this guy for about 2 months now...well let me refraise that we are friends with benefits sota speak...i no not the best relationship, but we keep eachother company. Anyways my question to you is....Not more than a day after he left my house after sleeping over for 3 days in my bed, did he try to make a move on another girl right in front of me, and im not talking just trying to make a move; he flat out ignored me the whole night we were together, thinking he may try to score with this other girl. Like i said we are NOT in a relationship, but am i wrong when I think its disrepectful when he does this infront of me? At least give me the respect to do it when im not around, or you didnt just leave my bed after sex. Is that wrong of me to be upset with him?
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reader, imperfectedbeauty +, writes (18 December 2009):
I understand where you're coming from because im in a FWB relationship myself and i would be pissed off if he ever did that to me...but unfortunately it is what is and he is single but remember you are single too...now if your feeling like this it's probably because you are having strong feelings for him. you either need to get out of it or let him know how you feel.
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reader, thewomanmenwant  +, writes (4 October 2009):
He will not give you respect because you didn't respect yourself enough to have clear boundaries with him. People give you respect when you respect yourself.
It looks as though you have feelings for him but it's a bit too late. You have a choice, either cut it off or continue being his friend with benefit and give up your right to feel disrespected.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (4 October 2009):
 You're not in a relationship and have absolutely no standing with him romantically. He can do whatever he wants. These are the perils of "friends with benefits" relationships.
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reader, LessonsLearned +, writes (4 October 2009):
It's not disrespectful. There is no relationship, you don't have any right to assume he won't seek other woman. That's the point of friends with benefits relationships. You have to both want to sleep with other people more than you want to be together. I think you like him and you fooled yourself into thinking an FWB relationship was a good idea...wrong! If you don't really like him then your just reacting to getting your ego bruised by seeing a guy prefer another girl over you. This is why FWB relationships are a bad idea for girls. We can have sex with a girl we dont care about, girls find it difficult not to care about the guy she has sex with. It don't work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2009): It is dumb of you to settle for a friend's with benefits situation as women get bonded while men get their sexual needs met and move on. Bad deal for you, great deal for him.
Is he rude and inconsiderate, yes, but you signed up for it so what do you want to do now?
Keep getting more of the same? Set your standards higher and set your boundaries earlier? Choice is yours.
"Every woman gets the love life she deserves"
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