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*opelessromie27
writes:The guy I like at school is pissin me off! He likes me but he won't make any moves. I guess I've been complaining to my friends too much because now they're on his case. It's so awkward around him now because he used to txt or call me everyday...in December/January. We still talk but it's not as committed as it used to be. I want to be with him, but I'm kinda old fashioned and think that the guy should be courting me. I know, I know, 21st century honey! But that's just how I feel. Oh! And I asked him when he would make us official since we've been at this love game for a while now. AND since he's been telling people that he's gonna doit soon. Big mistake. I wish I hadn't have said that because now we're even further apart. I really like him. I'm not outgoing, but I'd try to be for him. Though I'm very overprotected and I barely hang with my friends because of it. And it makes me feel worse that I would try so hard to be with him but not them. Ugh, high school sucks butt man! What should I do? Please help me agony aunts, I just want some way to solve this so bad. Reply to this Question
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (22 April 2010):
 Maybe you need to get more modern and let go of this idea that guys should do all the chasing, courting, moves, etc, coz you might miss out on a few guys over your life time by not acting. If you just won't, so be it, but be prepared that some are gunna pass you by because of it and you may wind up kicking yourself in years to come from not just rying for it yourself.
I honestly feel sorry for guys having this expectation put on them, ... they can be just as shy, nervous, etc, a the girls sitting there not making a move either and it sucks that it is all put on them. This guy tho, is only young too which makes it weven more difficult for them, and look what he is doing under pressure and expectation, .... he is backing away.
Now are you going to let him, .. or are you going to meet him in the middle? It's up to you.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 April 2010):
 Well, forget about labels and "seriousness" and grab him, throw him up against the locker and kiss his brains out. Then walk away as if you don't care.
Seriously - you are giving off clingy vibes. Don't even mention to him that you want him to be serious or that you expect him to court you. Instead, make him feel like you couldn't care less in the world. In fact, be interested in other guys, maybe throw THEM up against the locker and suck THEIR faces off! If your guy likes you, that'll seriously set him off thinking you aren't going to just sit around pining for him.
There's also a chance he actually may not be into you, in which case it would be in your best interest to find someone new who WILL court you! But the trick is - YOU be mysterious and not so available to your guy. Guys love the chase, especially if they think that your affection for them seems to be in doubt.
Good luck snagging him! :)
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (22 April 2010):
 you're what, 13 or even 15 years old? At your age you shouldn't be focussing all your attention on one boy, let alone even thinking about getting him to make a commitment. Yes, it's very easy to have crushes on boys and quite normal as part of growing up, but mainly you need to be paying attention to your studies, and having fun with friends.Just drop all the worry about this one lad, and do other things you enjoy. Fretting about him isn't going to solve anything......I know it's difficult, but do try not to get so upset over him.
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