He likely doesn't even know I'm alive so...How do I get over this guy I dated 4 years ago?

A female age 36-40, *oney1 writes:

hi, i would like your advice. I went out with this guy four years ago when i was 17 and i still keep on thinkn about him and what happened with him. The thing was that we went out for about a year and the relatiionship was really intense like we would see each other every day from about 7 in the morn til 6 in the evening and then we would go home and speak to each other on the phone/text each other till early hours of the morning. his dad was really ill during and i supported him through all that too and he was also telling his frineds that he wanted to marry me even though i was 17 and he was 18. then suddenly we broke up - there was no arguments or rows or anything, he just stopped speaking to me and then a few days later i saw him hanging out with his ex. i don't know whether she had anything to do with it. then about a year later he got back in touch with me and we tried to be friends but from my point of view it was really tough cz i didn't really know how to deal with us just being frinds and nothing more. Although now I've been in other relationships since him they just don't seem to match up to what i had with him - even though there were bad times with him too. it seems that eevry time i get close to a guy now i compare them to my first bf and this ends up ruining things. Is this because he was my first love/will i ever get over him properly because i feel there must be something wrong with me for still feeling like this so long after. how can i try to get over this guy because i know he probably isn't thinking about me all the time???

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A female reader, Jaydalay  +, writes (29 April 2007):

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