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writes:Before I ask my question, I think I should describe myself first to impact your answer. I am a very shy and quiet person. Not so much a conversation starter unless with friends, and sometimes I can be awkward. Now here's the story,About two years ago I found out this guy liked me. I didnt like him back and I thought he was completely gross. So when he asked me to be his girlfriend of course I rejected him. I then started to grow small feelings after that. He would always try to talk to me but I was so reserved and a jerk. Then a year later, I find myself talking to him more and more, but he always starts the conversation. Then the next year, we still talked. Until I told my friends I liked him. (Let's be clear that he still likes me at this point) my friends started getting involved and asking him questions about me, and one of them even said he still wanted to go out with me. So she asked if I would date him. I like him but I said most likely no or maybe. She told him that and I guess he had gotten a little sad. (A little while later my friends start talking to him again and he probably realizes I like him.) I'm not exactly sure about that though but it only makes sense. My friend that hated seeing us together talks to him about me? So after he most likely realized I liked him he says to my friend ill never ask her out again. And then after that week by week he starts talking to me less and less. I don't know why. It's not like we can't be friends. Until today he finally talked to me except I sort of ignored him. He probably won't say hi to me again till a while and a long one. What should I do with him?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 March 2015):
 You like him as a friend but he wants more than friendship. Being friendzoned is a most dreaded situation for boys. You don't like him that way, you only like the fact that he likes you. Continuing being his friend means you get to enjoy his attention. While for him there is no benefit. Let's be honest, someone who's completely gross at the beginning can't suddenly transform to gorgeous. He gave up so even when he talks to you that's just because he can be civil, friendly, and he doesn't have to pretend you are invisible. There is nothing more you have to do with him. He got your point very clear, that you are not interested in him romantically. Yes you can be friends but also he doesn't have to be.
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