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writes:I have a small question which i would love some help in deciding. Have you seen those websites where you can send sms off to other people, well my ex uses them when he has no credit. I asked him the other day how come he never text's me off this when i text him a question, and he said that its because he only gets 10 a month so i thought ok - that's fair enough. But yesterday i found out my best friend uses the same site when he runs out of credit so i said to him how do you cope with only 10 a month and he said "where have you heard that from - i can send as many as I want". why would my ex lie to me over something so small?Its like over the past few weeks he seems to be lying to me a lot over small things but he expects lifts everywhere - what do i do? should i bring up the white lie or leave it but I'm scared that i wont be able to believe anything he says anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Sugar Sugar, I never picked him up for his "date" which I felt pretty good. Yesterday (night time) I was talking to him and I said I was meeting someone and he knew that it was my male best friend and he said "well have fun on your date" and it felt like he was having a sly dig at me. There was one time where I was meeting him christmas eve and I was with my best mate and he knew this and he turned round and said that "he didn't want to meet me while I'm with the my new bloke" and I told him that me and my best friend were not seeing each other and if I was seeing him it shouldn't bother him if he wasn't interested anymore. Anyway when we met, my best friend works in something to do with body language and he said he watched my every move and that isnt something an ex not interested would do. It makes me so confused.
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reader, sugar_sugar  +, writes (17 January 2009):
 He's either doing it to hurt you or he's incredibly selfish.
It is NOT a healthy situation to be dropping your boyfriend off and picking him up from dates! He is NOT a teenager, you are NOT his mother, and it is the furthest thing from acceptable.
What kind of person asks a recent ex to do that? If he had a shred of decency, or respect for you he wouldn't ask.
And I think you need to re-evaluate how much respect you have for yourself if you are willing to drive him (literally) into the arms of someone else just to keep him in your life.
So here's what you do, you walk away. You stop all communication with him. You renounce your taxi services to him and instead begin to use your car for something productive - like driving yourself to and from dates with other men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts like tonight he's meeting someone (which he says is not a date but I know it is) and its with someone who tried to break us up when we were together and he expects me to pick him up and take him home so he's not late. He told me that he wants to stay single for a while and he rubs it in my face when he has a date - it feels like he's trying to hurt me when he knows I miss him. I did a lot for him and i mean hell of a lot when no one would help him. I feel like he's doing this to hurt me. What should I do?
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reader, Vagn +, writes (15 January 2009):
 i think that you should leave it just for now and see what happens just for a while and if he keeps doing it then just bring it up and be straight with him and just tell him u want to know the truth.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (15 January 2009):
Why are you still so heavily attached to your ex? That's the real question?
Why are you allowing him to treat you like a doormat? Believing what he says shouldn't be an issue anymore. He is an ex for a reason so I suggest you cut him out of your life, and save your time for someone who cares for you enough to give you the kind of interaction you deserve.
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