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*nthestates2010
writes:My fiance lies to me on a regular basis, I can tell when he is lying and when I confront him he tries to turn it around on me. We argue about it and then he admits he lied and promises he wont do it again. Then a week later he lies to me again. I have been dealing with problem for a long to time. Should I continue to deal with it or walk a way and never look back? He also has had to relocate to canada and I am in the states, I do not want to make a huge mistake by leaving for someone who lies to me all the time. help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 July 2010):
He's lying because he has something to hide. You'll never know what, and it'll just torture you to continue looking for an answer. Accept he is a liar, and move on from him. You'll never be happy with this man, and you'll never know the truth.
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reader, inthestates2010 +, writes (12 July 2010):
inthestates2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen I ask him to please just tell me the truth he says "i am afraid how you will react, I just dont want you to doubt me or think Im doing something to hurt you so I didnt tell you". I have never reacted negatively about anything when he tells me the truth. But still his excuse is that I am the reason he lies..everytime Im like wouldnt it just be easier to just tell the truth, because when you lie I am left to wonder why are you lying to me, what are you trying to hide, should I be suspious now since he has lied. He lies about things like where he has gone, who he went with..he lies about his plans as far as relocation planning. He has lied to his friends and to his parents. Everytime i confront him (and sometimes I dont)he immediately gets really angry with me, denies it, tries to say Im crazy etc, but Ive been with him for three years and I can tell when he is lying...it can be about the smallest things but also big things. I become so upset that I know he's lying and wont admit it that I usually become silent or cry or sometimes do not confront. It hurts me so badly but I love him so much. He assures me that he is not doing anything unloyal towards me, but if you have nothing to hide, why lie? Thank you so far for the comments they have been helpful in me realizing how much more serious this really is.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 July 2010):
I also agree with C.Grant. This man should have no place in your life.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Walk away. And if that doesn't work, run. There is no basis for a relationship with someone who lies like that. And definitely no reason to leave your home to relocate to a different country. Forget him.
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