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writes:My husband of 15 years left me and our 2 sons for a woman he met on the internet. He walks around and acts like nothing is wrong, like this is the Reba show. I was totally devastated. When i do talk to him he just blames me for the way our relationship had gotten. We argued mostly about his time spent on the internet or who he was texting. He would get mad if I questioned him and I obviously had reason to. I'm so mad but also so hurt I still cry everyday. It has only been a few months but I dont know how to stop thinking about him with her. I want to move on but it is driving me crazy.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (23 July 2009):
I'am sure once he start's to have problems with her he will be right back on your door step. You have to stay strong and find ways to spend your time until you are over him. It is not that he isn't there it's the way he went about it and now he is trying to blame you, It takes two in a marriage to mess it up sometimes. Just be strong and try to move on maybe by trying to start going out and seeing what is out there now. God does not like ugly and it will come back on him believe that, you be strong for you and your kid's and don't you dare be a doormat for this scum to come over and wipe his feet on anytime he gets a itch. Almost forgot make sure you get what you were worth for 15 years and your kids are taking care of. Hell I would say she can have him but he will be going broke.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): Wow, sometimes you think your the only one until you read that someone else is expereincing it. It does not matter how long its been, you will sometimes replay the way he left and it may take you to a place that you do not want to be in. I encourage you, staying busy is not enough, because you will hit a brick wall by doing so. Be real with where you are and realize that you will not be there forever. The harsh reality is that it is truly his loss and he is going to have to pay for that by God Himself. So this is a victory for you, because it could have been 18 or 20 years and then he leaves.... When someone shows you who they really are...BELEIVE THEM!
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (23 July 2009):
If it's only been a few months, that's 8 to 12 weeks and the two of you were together for 15 years. This is a crappy situation, but know that time will heal the wounds - and living a good and fruitful life with completly heal them. Odds are really good that his relationship will not stand the test of time, and that the romance will fade quick. You need to focus on yourself and your kids, proceed with a divorce and protect yourself. If you situation was like mine, you're ex will wake up 1/2 way through the divorce and want to stop it. I'd suggest strongly NOT doing that, and completing the process. You may decide to date again and re-marry, but I'd suggest some seperation and serious time for you to sort yourself out (away from him) and let you heal and decide what's right for you. The kids need structure and please don't give them alse hope that you and your ex may get back together.I'd get plenty of child support and alamony (and I'm a guy!) and make sure that you and the kids are covered.Try to find some outlet for your time - don't just sit at home... get out join same age adults (ideally ones w/o kids) so that you can start meeting folks. You'll be shocked how many quality singles there are out there... good luck!
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reader, Emeline +, writes (23 July 2009):
 You're going through a tough time. You should keep yourself busy. Plan fun things to do with your kids. If you bond even closer with them, you'll notice that you won't need anyone else but them. Also, you could take some time for yourself. Relax and read a good book or something. When I feel down, exercising is a good way to relieve stress. Hope this can help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): Hmmm...Do you mean he has actually moved out or is just constantly online with this woman? You did not make yourself clear. I think he definitely has a problem. I don't know exactly what to tell you, as I don't understand the situation well. Some people do get hung up on the "net" and some of the people they meet. I don't know what it is. Maybe he is just playing a fantasy game. Try to get him to talk more. He obviously gets upset when you confront him. So, just try to be casual and easy about it, but, you must get him to talk. If you can't, get somebody who can,...Does he have family members you get on with? It would be great if he had an older brother or somebody who could say, "Hey, bro, what the hey?! What ya doin'? Use your options. If no inlaw help, try family counseling. I can't see a man throwing his family away like this over an internet "flame". It just isn't normal.
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reader, alwaysreadyandwilling  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Internet dating is for singles,unless you do it as a couple. There is more chance of him falling,as the relationship is early doors and i wouldnt take him back either. Takes me back to this woman who was supposed to be meeting me off a flirt by text service. Her guy came back and i was on the back burner,but still kept contact for chances. Dont know which one of us she was using,but lets say she`s flat on her bottom now. She`s tryin to get back in my bed but no chance. This i think will be the outcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): I know this isn't what you want to hear, but really the only cure for heartbreak is time. It will be easier if you can spend lots of time with your friends and family.
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