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writes:i was with someone and left me for someone else two years ago! He is still with this person and has moved in with her but he still speaks to me alot, and tells me he's still interested alot! what do i do? I love him, will we ever get back together? please help!!
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (10 December 2007):
 Even if he did leave her, eventually, is this really fare to you? Are you supposed to sit down and wait until he has had enough of the new gal and comes back?
Maybe this is the guy for you. By moving in with someone else he made a huge statement: he might love you but doesn't think it would work out, so he is going to try with someone else. Maybe, although he is the guy, this is not your time to be together!
By letting him call you, you are being (in my opinion) disrespected and allowing it. My ex husband, who is now married, still calls sometimes and says he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. The truth is he could have chosen to try and win me back, in fact, when he started seeing him I got kinda jealous and try to reestablish contact with him. He chose her! It was difficult to understand, but that was his choice and I had to respect that and respect myself and respect his new partner. Eventually I decided I was not going to be a mistress because he made his choice. He is still married (2 years now), I found someone new and believe this was the best thing for both of us.
Maybe life will reunite the both of you someday. Maybe you are meant for each other. But presently, he chose her and out of respect for yourself, you should try to move on!
Best of lucks!
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