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anonymous
writes:Me and my beloved were together from the last 2 years. 6 months back he left for another country. He left me saying that there's no future(and was trying to ignore me from last 3 months). Yeah,i know we two are from different caste and his family is very strict on this point. But we both love each other. But i really want to spend my life with him. What to do?:( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): You have given into him too much and that's not right, he is clear on his future, usually men in India have the authority & dare to talk to their parents if they really love their girl but if he is not ready to stand for you then he has not loving you surely, now, even if you wait for him or continue with him, you will get hurt certainly and that hurt is very painful believe me, so better to be aware of it before happening and find someone who is good for you, otherwise you will keep on thinking of him if don't have anybody.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Thankyou so much oneguy. I am trying to move on. Have closed all the doors of communication with him. And yeah,working on my career. But am still waiting for him to join me after he realises what his life is going to be without me and that he will have to fight for his love. These are very petty issues according to me. I gave my 110% in this relationship and I still love him:( i hope and pray he realises it soon:(
once again,thankyou so much.
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reader, oneguy  +, writes (28 January 2011):
 Hi Miss,Unfortunately, it doesn't look like your boyfriend loves you, does it?Caste is regressive. It is the worst form of regressive thinking when used to draw borders in love. But then that is India. As long as there will be freebies based on caste, as long as people want to protect their turfs, as long as they are blinded by illusion and fail to see the truth that all people are one and the whole world is one family, caste based discrimination and atrocities will stay.I sincerely suggest that you move on and forget your boyfriend. If possible, please study well and you also move up the chain in your career. If possible, you also go and study in a good university in a foreign country. Work hard for it. Find a man with a true heart. Find your true self and you will know.Being independent and self sufficient is necessary, especially for women. Empower yourself and have good healthy habits and hobbies. Do yoga daily, exercise, study well, travel, dress well, see the world around you.. be affectionate and well mannered, use available facilities to look very good, love yourself, respect yourself. Never let others push you around. Stay your ground.You're very young, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Learn to focus on progressive actions rather than listen to debilitating peer pressure and Parental talk. Their concerns are valid but misplaced in space and time.Don't ever take shortcuts. Something that comes easy never stays. Something that you earn through merit of your efforts can never be taken away from you.All the best,Regards,
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