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writes: need some advice plz, i phoned my bf yesterday to ask him what time he was coming to pick me up and he said he would pick me up at tea time which i said that was fine. so at 7.45pm he still hadn't picked me up so i phoned him again and he was in the pub he asked me to get a taxi up but i said no as i needed to get my clothes out of his house as id nothing to wear so he told me he'd pick me up an hour later so by 8.30pm he still hadn't arrived and i phoned him again but this time he didn't answer his phone i therefore text him asking him was he picking me up or not and he didnt reply so when i tried to ring again his phone was off. so i text him telling him basically thx for making a c**t out of me and that i was fed up with him doing this to me all the time and would he drop my stuff down to me so i then went to bed at 9pm. then at 11pm he text saying that he'd deleted my number amd wrote bye bye at the end of it i therefore txt him back and he replied saying i dont no who this is but would you stop texting my phone plz. so i just left it at that but when my mum got home last night all my stuff was sitting outside my door in binbags which he had left there. ive tried ringing him all day and he wont answer his fone. what do you guys think i should do? iv been with him 5yrs
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): guess before this happen, you already have trouble together, it sounds like his give up. then why not give what he want.... leave him alone dont call him or even sms him. give him space and give your self time to move on too. its hard at first time but when u over it u will see it is much more better. sometimes it is more better to be alone and have fun than having somebody beside you with almost have all the time trouble.good luck dear you will make it... XXX gladyz....
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (30 October 2006):
 Hi there
I say forget him, what he did was very disrespectful regardless of how annoyed he might have been with you there is no excuse, but I say judge for yourself think of what is good for you and then ask yourself questions like based on the 5yrs period you were together: is he the man u take pride in? Any other type of abuse bcos having to find ur staff inside binbags on your front door carry some kind of emotional abuse, Do you want to be with a man who will pretend not to know u after a fight?
Stop ringing him and start healing u deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): Hi there, wow, first off I am sorry this happened to you.
Personally I don't like text messaging on the phone, I know it is popular, but I think it leads to a lot of miscommuniation and relationship problems,,,we begin to think if someone does not respond to our texts within minutes that they are being very rude and neglectful....perhaps it was your repeated texts and annoyance at his ignoring you and his lateness that trigged his strong emotions and prompted him to do what he did...something is going on in your relationship if you have been together for 5 years and this is the way he chooses to end things with you...have you had other relationship problems before this? I am certain that you have, maybe a lot of power struggles?
Either way, what he did is very immature, a poor way to treat you, and just plain stupid.
If I were in your shoes, I would probably just not have any contact with him for a long while even though you may be dying to unload your hurt feelings on him....don't do this, this is what he is expecting, he has pushed your buttons on purpose to make you angry--he knows he deserves it. But I would really surprise him by ignoring him totally....and if he does not come back around, good riddance...What are you doing waiting around for 5 years anyway....this guy should have decided by now if you were going to be the one he asked to marry....he sounds very immature to me, and a neglectful, selfish, stupid boyfriend. Surely this is a sign it is over between the two of you and frankly you are probably better off without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): girlllllllllllll!!!!!! i bin wid my man fo 3 yrs..if he EVA did that to me..dusnt mata hw much i loved him..i wuddd nevaaaaaaaaaa want to see him agen...u go n get ur self a man who will love u off n respect u...u dont need this knob..seriously sweeetie..one day he'll be beggin for u to cum back..and wen that day cums..if i ws u..i wudnt even luk at him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): I think he must have another woman either on the burner or maybe even closer than that. 5 yrs is a long time but at what point does one say enough is enough ??
he did not leave you with your dignity in tact and no human should take anothers dignity away.
I say you let him be and when its time the right man will find you.
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