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writes: Two weeks ago I split up with my boyfriend and I still can't stop thinking about him and it's getting me down all the time and I am so unhappy. I recently started drinking as this makes me happy. How can I go about getting over him before I start a real problem off?
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reader, Terrie-Anne +, writes (31 October 2006):
Have you tried talking to a support group, drinking wont help it will make you sick. Iknow how you feel. I dumped my ex boyfriend but i dream about him and i do have triple vodka or whisky and coke to numb the hurt. please find help before you have a serious problem.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (30 October 2006):
 "How can I go about getting over him before I start a real problem off?"
You realise that your health and welfare is much more important than the relationship ever was, so you are strong and ready to move on. We all know too well how difficult break ups are, but we are freeing ourselves for a better relationship next time around.
The drinking does not bring happiness, but merely blocks out the pain. This is only temporary, but the damage caused is permanent.
Instead of turning to drink, turn to friends, family and hobbies.
You will meet the right guy soon and realise that this break up was for the best.
Love makes time pass, but time makes love pass.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (30 October 2006):
 Hi
Splitting with a boyfriend you love can be emotional turmoil but life goes on.
Boyfriends will always come and go some will be good some will be bad either way we need to learn to go, alcohol won’t bring him back it will destroy u sooner or later u will start depending on it and we don’t want that do we?
Find other ways of getting him out of your mind spend more time with your family and friends get new dates have fun and enjoy life instead of getting yourself down.
For sure wherever he has moved on do the same and stop feeling sorry for yourself . Hope this helps a little
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): Hi anon, it must be really horrible sweetie, but your being sencable by asking for help with this,
it may make you feel better in the short term to drown your sorrows but in the long term you will end up crying and acting out of character, and it could be dangerous, c'os thats what it does it makes you more upset/emotional easpesally wine and Gin, But there all to blame really all alchol Drinks!
Stop drinking alchol at the moment, but at this time you will need your friends for a Heart to Heart so go for coffee insead of out boozing until your heart heals,break ups are very tough and you are brave, but this is a new start for you, use this time to throw yourself into somthing you love doing just for you an activity that makes you happy,
I promice things will get easier sweetie and you will meet the man of your Dreams when your ready to love again,
and write back to let me know how your doing Take care of yourself, Ditzy blonde x
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