A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone, if your husband walks out on you after a few months of marriage and the only reason he gives that he was confused and wanted to be single again. Do you think there was someone else, it does not make sense, he said there was noone else, we were not really fighting when he decided to walk out. I thought if you having problems in a marriage the last thing to do would be to walk out. I am having serious problems trying to come to terms with this and dont know will i ever recover, we are back together but there is a nagging doubt that he will do it again, he said it wont but i dont know. Has anyone had any experienc with this, i have gone though everything in my head as to the reason why, even had him down to maybe being gay!! Help please, anyone else ever been in this situation? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): Hi Love,
My advise is based on my experience in this hunny, I dont for one minute think your husband is anything like mine was... Mine walked out on me in his lunch hour while I was making lunch, One month after marriage, I had no idea what was going on I was devistated he just left and went to the u.k gave me no reason not one and then a week later I had a phone call he wanted to come back, I talked with him and he said he got scared and wasnt well so I tryed to sort it out only for him to do it again when I was 3 months pregnant.
At this point I didnt no what to think or do as the pregnancy was all planned and again I was left heartbroken, I should have let him go as he turned out to be very controlling and violent, The pain I felt when this happened is like no pain I can describe as your whole world is turned upside down, Everything I believed in felt like lies and it felt like I had a huge whole in my stomach so If thats how you feel hunny I no and its not nice its really very hurtfull and confussing and so many more words I cant describe, I to thought my husband to be gay maybe as his actions where so very confussing, But before we married he was so excited and pushing for the marriage to be brought forward and could not wait so I couldnt think straight as to why this was happening, I never came to terms with the way my husband treated me love still now it scares me to think what I was actually involved with.
You are going to have nagging doubts who wouldnt, have you asked him to see a counsellor or have you spoken to anyone yourself as you need to love, I cant answer the question if he will ever do this again as he may not and you may go on to have a wonderfull marriage if you can get past this, You are going to need alot of love and understanding and you have to talk to someone dont bottle up your feelings on this ok love I hope this helps a little if you need to talk im here just message me. Take care of you sweetheart love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): something like this happened to me and i asked him out right if he was gay cause he said that it wasnt another woman, and he found that really funny. it turned out to be another woman, we tried to put it behind us and work through it but you need to be a really strong person to do that. (can you ever really trust him again) if his late home from work or out with the lads (i couldnt).
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): How old is this guy? Did he show any signs whatsoever of being committment-shy before you married him? He's not acting like a loving, generous, committed man is he. He is one-half of this union and committment means sharing a life with another and that means you both have a deep, abiding, strong responsibility to each other. He shrugging off his responsibibility here. So...hun, you have a right to get some clear, concise answers, instead of this excuse that 'he is confused and wants to be single again'. That's a lame, BS answer. And..you are right. you don't just walk out on such an important thing as marriage and such a new marriage at that! If a person is finding marriage tough, then they need to be courageous, strong and mature and they do all they can to keep a marriage intact and work at it. He really sounds very immature and uncertain about marriage. He doesn't understand what the word committment means. Or..he is hiding something. The truth is I think you know that deep down--this man has the potential to continually hurt and disappoint you, again. Men like this are often liabilities in a woman's life. If he's back in your life, you both need marriage counseling, as this is a very complex issue and plainly, the problem is his lack of maturity, committment and drive to make marriage work. And until, you both work this through...do not bring any children into this marriage-that would be a disaster.
...............................
|
