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writes:Dear Cupid,I have been dating a guy for 5 years. We started on when I was 26 and I'm 31 yrs now. He is my first and only boyfriend. He told me me he wanted us married in November this year and that he really means it. I asked him so many times if he was sure because I am not so much in a hurry, but he kept on insisting that I have been patience with him and he wants to give me the biggest wedding ever. We even made plans and we spent a huge sum of money, only for him to tell me he is sorry and can't. I asked him why and he said he is married. Can you believe that his family knew? I am very close to them and they didn't tell me. He doesn't live with her so there was no way I could have guessed. He said she means nothing to him and she knows about me but I should just wait ab it until the divorce becomes final so that we can get married. My family and friends were furious but I was sad. I didn't believe something this bad could happen to me because I have been very careful and I tried in all my years not to hurt anyone. Right now I am very down and disappointed. He is angry that I don't understand him and that he has apologised so I should give him another chance and trust him. First I considered doing that, because his parents told me she means nothing to him, but he stopped talking about the divorce and won't let me know what he is planning and thinking.The bottom line is that I find it difficult to trust him again and he is furious. He has lied, fixed a wedding that he knew won't hold and caused a huge embarrassment for me because invitations already went out.I feel I did the right thing by telling him to go sort his life out and if he really loves me then he would do that and come back to me, but he is angry that I am suggesting that and he wants it over if I don't continue the affair that he won't come back to me if the divorce is final because I should stand by him. Told him then that's its over. Please, I just need to know that I did the right thing and ways to make me move on.thank you so much
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (29 November 2005):
 I say, you go girl, and as fast as you can... he has led you on with lies and deceit, false hope and empty promises... what will change if you stick around wasting more of your precious life on this unworthy man? you have made the right decision, i hope you will be strong enough to stand your ground on this and not let him persuade you otherwise... good riddance to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2005): Dear, you did the right thing. Wishing you all the best for you coming future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2005): listen girl if he was capable of doing that to you think about what he could also do . your whole relationship wasn't real it was all a lie . sit down think does he desever some one as sweet as you . what has he done to earn your love??
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