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*illy456
writes:I’m a young guy and I’ve kind of a bizarre situation. I’m a student and I’m living in a flat share together with another guy. He’ s a wonderful person, we have much in common and so we became friends very quickly. He’s also gay, but that has never been a problem for me. I’m pretty open-minded person and I’ve nothing against homosexual people. He had a boyfriend, who was very violent and abusive with him, my friend often told me that he’s not happy with him. Not long time ago his boyfriend beat him up, because he decided to break up. When he came to our flat after that, he was feeling very down. I cared about his injuries, I’m studying medicine, so I could do it pretty well. We also had a long talk, I told him widely what an awesome person he is and that he shouldn’t feel bad because of one asshole. But after that he has started to act a bit weird, I think. For example, in evenings he goes out only with me. If I’m staying at home, he stays at home as well. When I’m showering, he asks should he help me wash my back. In mornings he makes breakfast for both of us. He’s or at least, he was pretty shy guy, but now sometimes he walks naked in front of me. The most confusing moments usually happens, when we’re watching TV. He lies down on the sofa next to me, rests his head on my shoulder. Once he told me I’m the best person in the world. He has never done these things before breaking up with his boyfriend. I’m straight and he knows it. He has always respected it, I think, he still does. But it’s so strange. Maybe he has interpreted my friendly feelings in his own way? Maybe I misunderstand something? I don’t know much about homosexuality, so..... what does it mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): The dude is interested in you, and is hoping for an opening, excuse the pun. You need to make arrangements to move out. You don't have to hurt his feelings or accuse him of anthing, but clearly the guy is lonely, and hopeful. You should be flattered, but he has a different goal than you do, and if you don't move out (... it doesn't have to be abruptly), I have a feeling that your friendship won't end well. Good luck.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (22 February 2013):
Dear OP,
I could imagine the guy has a crush on you. You were very nice to him and cared about him when he was in crisis, so he feels comfortable around you and safe.
It shows that you are a really nice person.
If I was you, I'd try to talk about it with him. Just to avoid future misunderstandings.
I am sure he can understand it when you make it clear that you like him as a friend, but that you just want to make sure and tell him that you are into girls.
Maybe you can also plan some activities where you can't take him along. Just to make it clear that you still have a life of your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013):
I agree with previous aunt post and I think you nailed it in your own post.. He got confused and now thinks there could be something more.. Just have an open chat, and when he does or says something say something like your a great friend but that's it .. I can make my own breakfast, wash myself etc..
You sound very sweet, very refreshing in this day in age..
Take care and keep up the good work ..
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