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writes:Hi guys, so this isn't a very serious question, but I'm just a bit confused about what this guy is doing. I'm happily in a relationship for almost 2 years now, we're doing pretty good, but recently this other guy is hitting on me, maybe? Met him on a train. I noticed him looking at me, and then he started talking to me and came and sat with me. I was bored anyway, so I talked to him too, and sometime it came up that I had a bf. I thought I was just being friendly and chatting, but I don't know, I could have been flirting too. Although I thought if he knew I had a bf that would basically set things straight. But then later on he asked me for my number and said he'd like to see me again. And I don't know how to say no or whatever, so I did. Anyways, I told my boyfriend about it, and he's mostly amused by the whole thing (and how flustered I am), and slightly annoyed that some guy is hitting on someone who has a boyfriend already. I guess I want some opinions on what he means by doing this? Saying he wants to meet up, etc. Oh, and since I met him, he has said he wants to meet up again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): You don't know what he heopes to achieve? Come on. You can't be that naive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, to clarify, I haven't met him beyond the first time I met him randomly and he asked for my number. My boyfriend knows everything that happened, and he's seen the texts the guy has sent me. I don't hide anything from him. He's not mad at me, he actually thinks the whole situation is kind of funny.
I probably won't meet him again, unless I see him again on the train. I just don't understand what he hopes to achieve by getting my number and meeting up with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): quiet simply, you're easy. your bf is better off without you!
Would you have been ok for your bf to hand out his number to some girl he met on the train, who chatted him up?
No I'm guessing! But that would be his fault, not the girls.
Stop blaming the guy on the train, you're easy! If I was your bf, I would have dumped you on the spot. Because if you can't say no, what ya gonna do when you've had a few drinks and a guy asks you back to his?
No-one to blame but yourself!
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reader, cls1990  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 I completely agree with the previous poster.
If you daren't say no to giving your number out then block him from calling you.
And don't meet him again!
Does your bf know you met him?
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reader, Lothorien10 +, writes (28 November 2010):
 I don't think you should have told him, harmless flirting to be honest. Girls are entitled to have friendly conversations with other guys whether they may be single or not. But i do think you should draw the line at meeting him again, especially if it bothers your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): I have a question for you. Why would a girl who has a boyfriend give her number to another guy? If you told him you had a boyfriend but he was still interested then this guy obviously has pretty poor morals and isn't too bothered about the idea of you cheating on your boyfriend.
Did you meet up with him? I suggest ignoring this guy from now on as he doesn't sound like somebody who can be trusted.
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